Is it wrong to spank my child?

I have tried time outs, grounding to his room, taking his fav toy away, everything i could think of and the only think that works is spanking. i dont make a red mark or anything just to get his attention and it seems to work, but corb was in the middle of a tantrum and i spanked him a little in wal-mart and this lady freaked out. the funny thing is he didnt cry untill she showed him attention then he started screaming louder!
what do you think?


Asked by Anonymous at 6:52 PM on Feb. 4, 2009 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • To each his own but I dont spank, I was never spanked either. There are plenty of other ways to discipline without spanking.

    Answer by gemgem at 6:54 PM on Feb. 4, 2009

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  • Toddler age 1-2. I would consider it abuse on a mental level. They are not old enough in their little mind to know exactly right from wrong due to lack of impulse control.


    Answer by Anonymous at 6:55 PM on Feb. 4, 2009

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  • Nope, I spank.

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:56 PM on Feb. 4, 2009

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    f, occasionally, you lose it and spank your child, you aren't going to damage him or your relationship forever. It's not an effective or positive approach to discipline, though. It's a more serious problem if you commonly spank your child, or if it's one of your dominant disciplinary methods.
    # It teaches your child that violence is an acceptable way to express anger and deal with conflict. This contradicts the rest of how you are trying to raise your child.

    # It's harmful emotionally for you. Have you ever felt wonderful after hitting a child? Spanking often leads to remorse, guilt, and doubts about the quality of your own parenting skills. Avoid the agony-resist the urge to smack. It's a very unpleasant sensation to feel like a bully.
    # It's harmful emotionally for the child. Spanking is traumatic, makes a child feel as though there's something wrong with her (in

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:57 PM on Feb. 4, 2009

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  • i spank my child. and i was raised getting more spankings and with things other than your hand (belts, switches, fly swatters) and i turned out perfectly normal. im not in therapy bc my parents didnt love me or bc i dont know who i am. healthy person mentally and physically here. i dont spank my son the way i was spanked but hes 2.

    Answer by SThompson21 at 7:01 PM on Feb. 4, 2009

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  • I can't say we have never spanked maybe once or twice but he was old enough to understand it hurt and it was for something serious. He was lying. We knew that time-out or grounding wasn't the answer for it. I haven't I leave it for my husband but it has been a good year since he was spanked and he was 7 at the time.

    Answer by robinsi2000 at 7:04 PM on Feb. 4, 2009

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  • Spanking is considered child abuse most of the time and not worth getting in trouble for. But hey go ahead and spank. I come from a family of therapists so we could use the money.

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:05 PM on Feb. 4, 2009

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  • I don't spank. I don't believe it's effective. That being said I *have* spanked twice when I lost my cool and cried more than she did. It's never happened again.

    Answer by celticreverie at 7:06 PM on Feb. 4, 2009

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  • I had spoons split across my behind when I was little. Although I think my parents did a good job raising me, I would not use that as my own method. I always felt there was a lot of anger behind spanking rather than actual desire for correction. I think that if you can spank your child and it's not out of anger, then it's fine. I honestly think spankings where a parent can truthfully claim that it was 100% anger-free in motivation are extremely rare. I would perfer time-outs, temporarily removing things my son enjoys as well as just leaving the store when he tantrums. Even if I agreed with spanking, I would never do it in public. Nowadays, that's a great way to have a stranger insert themselves into your business or have the police called on you.

    Answer by NovemberLove at 7:06 PM on Feb. 4, 2009

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  • I spank ONLY if it is something I REALLY need her to understand isnt ok...or if nothing else works. You should have told the lady off...It isnt her child nor her business

    Answer by Mikayla_lynn at 7:07 PM on Feb. 4, 2009

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