What do you do if someone is bullying your child at school?

This is a spin-off of the question of the boy hanging himself.. This is intolerable.

What would you do if someone were bullying your child?


Asked by averillholistix at 2:51 AM on Feb. 5, 2009 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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  • talk to the principal

    Answer by aliciatron at 3:01 AM on Feb. 5, 2009

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  • What if the prinicpal didn't do anything I guess is what I'm asking..????

    Answer by averillholistix at 3:04 AM on Feb. 5, 2009

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  • call their parents?

    Answer by aliciatron at 3:27 AM on Feb. 5, 2009

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  • I have had this problem we moved to this area so my son started at a new school within two days I get a call from the principal that something happened to my son so I go to school and find out that an older boy had choked my son out in the bathroom telling my son to give him his shoes and he did it to another little boy too. So I talked to the principal about it and I let him know if he wasnt taking care of it I would be calling the police because it becomes a battery and I wasnt just going to walk away from the problem. Needless to say my son hasnt had a problem again

    Answer by Crashmonster1 at 3:33 AM on Feb. 5, 2009

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  • My child is being bullied at school. I spoke with the principal they did nothing. My child was beaten so badly he had to be hospitalized so I called the police. The child was arrested but his family had him home immediately. They tried to pay us money so we would drop charges I said no way. They will be paying medical expenses because their child beat mine. The school did not expel the child only suspended him. So I pulled my son out of the school and am now suing the District. They are trying to settle with me but they don't understand this is not about money, I have plenty of that already, but about them apologizing to my son and fixing the system. I will drop the suit when that happens. If they don't fix things I will use the money I will win to pay for counseling for children who are harmed by bullies. My son has to go to therapy twice a week. He started wetting the bed and is afraid. Bullies are evil.


    Answer by Anonymous at 4:12 AM on Feb. 5, 2009

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  • My first thought would be to contact the parents or an admin at school, but I realize that many times, that can cause even more anguish for the one being picked on and, unfortunately, not much is done now days with the strict punishment rules against kids. So, to be quite honest, I have taught my DD to defend herself if that ever were the case. Sometimes, kids need to know the proper defense techniques to survive. Not always is an adult going to be there or even be willing to help the situation. DD is fully aware she is NOT, under any circumstances, to utilize her defense techniques to bully kids or start trouble. She has the knowledge strictly to defend herself, whether it's against another child who started it by hitting her, or even a potential attacker on the street.

    In this day and age, I fully believe self-defense should be taught to all kids with the strict discipline of control.

    Answer by TeensMom07 at 6:04 AM on Feb. 5, 2009

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  • I guess it would all depend on the situation. My initial reaction was that I'd ask my husband to talk with my son about bullies and school yard politics because he understands boys better than I do. Like the PP said sometimes a parent getting involved can make things worse. On the other had. looking at Anon above and her poor child who was hospitalized, I am not sure what I'd do in that situation. That doesn't even sound like bullying to me it sounds like full on assault. So many times our schools blame the child that is bullied now because of things like Columbine. The child is a future suspect, not a current victim. I'd make sure my child knew that there's nothing wrong with him and I'd encourage him to resolve the problem and to not let it continue. If it were assault then I'd go for the jugular just like Anon above. By the way: WAY TO GO ANON!!! I like the cut of your gib!!!

    Answer by beckcorc at 6:44 AM on Feb. 5, 2009

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  • I would tell my daughter to defend herself. I am a firm believer that if you hit back, the bully leaves you alone.

    If the problem continues, I call the cops.

    Answer by Kaelaasmom at 7:02 AM on Feb. 5, 2009

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  • If you goto public schools you may not be able to call the parents. Schools are not allowed to relase information. My daughter feels very comfortable with her teacher. I would encourage her to start there on her own but offer to be there with her. Then I would goto the Principal. If it persists and no one in the school woud be of assistance, I would contact Child Protective Services.

    Answer by grlygrlz2 at 7:35 AM on Feb. 5, 2009

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  • If all else fails, switch schools!!!! The damage bully's can cause will last a life time, your child's safety and sanity is def worth the trouble of switching him to a diff school.

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:56 AM on Feb. 5, 2009

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