What if I'm not comfortable with the CIO method?

alright so a day or so i posted a question on if my 6 month old would hate me if i let him CIO when i switch him from my bed to his own crib. many replied say that its okay and not to worry because it works great, but there were a few who told me that it can cause brain damage and emotional problems! my sister in law knew someone whose baby got a hernia from crying too much! what do i think now? when the doctor told me to do this method she failed to tell me all the bad things about it! i hate to hear my son cry, it breaks my heart! but i thought i could get through it for one night may be, maybe, and thats if it was going to teach him to sleep on his own and sleep all night. i dont know now... really how mad is the CIO method, because my husband is insisting that we try it. please help me decide. i need some facts

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havingaboy08

Asked by havingaboy08 at 3:24 PM on Feb. 5, 2009 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • On the show The Doctors they said not to have a baby cry it out past 10 minutes. So if he keeps crying after 10 minutes, go in there calm him down, and then try it again a little while after.
    My son was sleeping great until he started flipping over on his stomach and couldn't get back to his back. He started crying everytime. My husband let him CIO one night and at 9 minutes he passed out. THe next night he passed out after 5 minutes. Now, he just falls back asleep.
    Good Luck!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:29 PM on Feb. 5, 2009

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  • Look into other methods if you are not comfortable with CIO. It's not an either or thing with having them cry it out or not teaching them sleeping habits at all. Check out the book The No Cry Sleep Solution.
    riotgrrl

    Answer by riotgrrl at 3:31 PM on Feb. 5, 2009

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  • First of all, you don't put the baby down and just let it scream/cry itself to sleep. That is a common misconception.

    You let it go for a few minutes, then go calm....a few minutes longer, then calm, etc.

    I've never heard of a baby getting a hernia from it, nor can I imagine ANYONE ever letting a baby cry hard enough or long enough to cause that.

    It will not cause brain damage. It will not cause emotional problems. You are NOT abandoning your baby. You only do what you feel is right. If you are not comfortable with it, you do NOT do it.

    The "cry it out" method is NOT leaving a baby in the crib to cry itself to sleep. It is NOT leaving a baby there to SCREAM itself to sleep.
    TiccledBlue

    Answer by TiccledBlue at 3:32 PM on Feb. 5, 2009

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  • lol what you heard is totally false. You cannot get a hernia from crying. It cannot cause brain damage. And it will not cause emotional harm
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:38 PM on Feb. 5, 2009

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  • I let both my boys cio and neither one has any issues as a result. It is more of a don't pick them up thing. You can sit next to the bed and comfort them you just don't pick them up EVERYTIME. I had a hard time with it but I have two very good sleepers that have no problems no matter where we are (hotels, family, sleepovers).
    Do some googling for yourself but it is NOT a bad thing.
    Artillwife01

    Answer by Artillwife01 at 3:39 PM on Feb. 5, 2009

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  • YOu should read sleep sense. I know mommies that have tried this and had great results.
    a_and_j_momma

    Answer by a_and_j_momma at 3:40 PM on Feb. 5, 2009

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  • Science Says: Excessive Crying Could Be Harmful to Babies
    Dr Sears
    http://askdrsears.com/html/10/handout2.asp

    EARLY BRAIN DEVELOPMENT
    http://www.educarer.com/brain.htm

    Crying for comfort: distressed babies need to be held http://www.mothering.com/articles/ne...onnection.html

    The Dangers of Leaving Your Baby to Cry
    http://drbenkim.com/articles-attachment-parenting.html

    The Science of Attachment: The Biological Roots of Love
    http://www.naturalchild.com/guest/la...ey_porter.html
    Cassieniccole

    Answer by Cassieniccole at 3:50 PM on Feb. 5, 2009

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  • http://www.fresnofamily.com/articles/aa040100a.htm
    http://www.naturalchild.com/guest/li...n_palmer2.html
    http://www.naturalfamilyonline.com/5...-parenting.htm

    Mistaken Approaches to Night Waking:
    http://www.nospank.net/fleiss2.htm

    8 INFANT SLEEP FACTS EVERY PARENT SHOULD KNOW, Dr Sears
    http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/T070200.asp

    http://www.gymealily.org/resources_paperva7.htm
    http://www.natural-wisdom.com/lovingresponse.htm
    http://www.todaysparent.com/lifeaspa...1225399&page=1

    A MENTAL HEALTH EXPERT WARNS THAT POPULAR ADVICE TO IGNORE YOUR CHILD'S TEARS MAY CAUSE LIFE-LONG HARM
    http://www.pantley.com/elizabeth/con...ioarticle.html
    Cassieniccole

    Answer by Cassieniccole at 3:50 PM on Feb. 5, 2009

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  • Why babies should never sleep alone: A review of the co-sleeping controversy in relation to SIDS, bedsharing and breast feeding
    James J. McKenna* and Thomas McDade
    http://www.nd.edu/~jmckenn1/lab/arti...should%20n.pdf

    http://www.news.harvard.edu/gazette/...enNeedTou.html

    CIO? No! The case for not using "cry-it-out" with your children
    http://www.storknet.com/cubbies/atta...enting/cio.htm
    Cassieniccole

    Answer by Cassieniccole at 3:50 PM on Feb. 5, 2009

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  • All the above links are not from medically accredited sites. I can google and find things that say it's not as well
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:53 PM on Feb. 5, 2009

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