What is the difference between bullying and assault?

I'm noticing that some mommies won't take action against a child bullying their child unless it turns physical...
and some mommies will take action if they get harassed...
Where do you draw the line between someone giving your kid a hard time, and all out assault? What's the difference?


Asked by averillholistix at 5:06 PM on Feb. 6, 2009 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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  • i think all kids get teased, but if its an attack on race or something else like a disibility and it happens every day and will not stop thats where i would draw the line. kids are so cruel

    Answer by aliciatron at 5:08 PM on Feb. 6, 2009

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  • I do not tolerate any of it. It is unacceptable.

    Answer by Momtocccd at 5:10 PM on Feb. 6, 2009

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  • Sticks and stones...to a point. if it's a continual pattern of harassment or just my son being singled out by a group, it will be dealt with. If it's "Caleb's mean and he's not my friend anymore" on Tuesday, I'm not worried about it, because I'm sure Caleb will be his friend again by Thursday.

    Answer by NotPanicking at 5:17 PM on Feb. 6, 2009

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  • Consistent name-calling and non physical bullying can damage a child emotionally and shouldn't be tolerated

    Answer by loyo3000 at 5:26 PM on Feb. 6, 2009

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  • I agree with Loyo. Verbal abuse can sometimes be more damaging than physical abuse. No child should ever have to endure either, yet they do, and then everyone is shocked when a kid brings a gun to school and starts blowing people away....................what did you expect?


    Answer by Sharon7772 at 5:39 PM on Feb. 6, 2009

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  • I'll tell my kid to tell the brats at the playground who tell him he can't be on a slide or climbing structure that yes, he CAN be, and I'll back him up if they don't listen to him.

    Answer by autodidact at 6:05 PM on Feb. 6, 2009

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  • oh, I also point out how awful such behavoir makes HIM feel, and that I expect him to be more kind and more fair than that.

    Answer by autodidact at 6:07 PM on Feb. 6, 2009

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  • Well i will teach my son to not be bulled... he will stand up for himself... no i am not saying punch anyone who talks mean to him, but he will not let people bully him....

    bullying can lead to dangerous things for children... its even making them kill themseleves in some cases....to me bullying is from bad home training and needs to be treated more serious in schools... bullying is more just talking bad and picking on someone where as assualt is actually putting their hands on another... but bullying is the beginning to an assault and rules against it need to be strengthend.

    Answer by JuLiAnSmOmMy317 at 6:23 PM on Feb. 6, 2009

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  • If my son is in a situation with any of his classmates and feels he is threatened in any way or feels he is being treated unfairly he has been taught to bring it to the group of friends and discuss his feelings and they then can have a conversation about the events that took place. Bringing it to the group allows them all to discuss how things could be handled better the next time and come up with solutions. This is very normal in his school environment. I do believe that children, for the most part, should try to work those things out on their own. However there does come a point when our children may not come to a solution in that case an adult should be brought into the situation to help the children come up with a solution. I teach my son that he should treat others as he would be treated and to always remember how it would feel if a person acted that way towards him.


    Answer by TinasTribe at 6:27 PM on Feb. 6, 2009

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  • I also wanted to add if a certain child repeatedly attacked my son, verbally or physically, and adult intervention has not helped the situation I would hope that my son would defend himself if need be. I in no way expect him to solve things with violence but sometimes we just need to keep our bodies safe from others.


    Answer by TinasTribe at 6:30 PM on Feb. 6, 2009

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