How important is preschool for a child?

When did preschool become such a big deal in a child's life? I never went to preschool and neither did anyone I have asked. It seems like all the little kiddos are being pushed to grow up, become a 5yr old before there time. I have two 2yr olds that will be 3 this year, and both will be entering preshcool in the fall. One of them is all ready for school, she talks about it when we pass the school, she just can't wait lol! The other one is just not there yet, in my opinion, and I talked to with her therapist about this, and they said "She needs to go to become more social with other kids. It will be good for her". I wanted to keep her out a year and send her next year, but now I feel like I HAVE to send her. Some kids just aren't mature enough at that age to be sent off to why is preschool being made out to be so important these days?


Asked by LizClara at 4:54 AM on Feb. 8, 2009 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • Pre-school is just that, it gets them ready for Kindergarten in a way. Its more like a social thing. If you have problems with her being clingy to you, then it is a good idea. You don't have to send your child to pre school. Its not mandatory.Its a couple of hours a day, just to get her use to being away from you. She learns little things, which is good.If you can't afford it and don't want her to go, then don't send her. If you think she will do well in K, then don't worry about it. You can teach her what she needs before school actually starts. They go to school enough, as is(k-12) (13 years), so don't send her if you don't want too. I did let mine go 2 days a week for 3 hours a day, the year before Kindergarten started.Don't let people pressure you into something that you don't want. It is not mandatory.

    Answer by Kat122 at 5:38 AM on Feb. 8, 2009

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  • When I was starting school...they taught in kindergarten what is currently taught in preschool! I was in shock when I discovered that! (but then...I'm old...started kindergarten in 71 lol)

    I wasn't going to send my kids to preschool...and my personal belief is that it is NOT necessary for academics...however the older two boys have some challenges and the extra social stimulation has been good for them.

    Is it necessary? As I said, I don't think it is long as the parents are working with them at home! Socially...if you don't want them to go to preschool, then find some play groups, gym classes, library classes, YMCA classes, etc for them.

    My youngest is in speech therapy and his therapist thinks being in a group setting with other kids his own age will help him. I found a class at the Y for his age group, once a week. He starts the end of the month. (he's 2)

    Answer by TiccledBlue at 6:14 AM on Feb. 8, 2009

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  • When I was in kindergarten all we had to do was know our colors, count to 100, know our address, and know how to try our shoes. Now, preschool is the new kindergarten because in kindergarten today they have to recognize American symbols, learn how to read, correct simple mistakes in sentences, add and subtract single and double digit numbers. I think pre-school or pre-k will be good for a child at the age of four. It is not mandatory but it gets them prepared socially, emotionally, and academically.


    Answer by JeremysMom at 8:50 AM on Feb. 8, 2009

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  • I think that the biggest reason pre-school is seen as such a big deal is because it helps mothers get back to work sooner. More women are career minded, and our economy is such that it is difficult to raise a family without 2 incomes. There is also an increase in single motherhood. Day care is expensive. And when you call it "school" it seems less like abandonment. I don't really think it is abandonment, but I don't think it is entirely necessary either. It can give your child a head start, but don't send them if you don't want to.

    Answer by FlyMom07 at 10:10 AM on Feb. 8, 2009

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  • I went to pre-school, but it was more like going to a playdate. I don't remember it being like school, but more like a place where we did crafts, read books, and played outside.

    Personally, I think pre-school is great and can help kids with becoming more social. I know I would feel more comfortable with my son going just to get around other kids and being exposed to more things that I may not expose him too, like doing crafts everyday (sorry, not in my budget).

    Right now, my son is in daycare part-time and I am so grateful for it. I know some people don't want someone else "raising" their kid, but I don't have a lot of people near me with young kids. So he gets to play with other kids his age and learn to be around other adults.

    Answer by ap9902 at 10:27 AM on Feb. 8, 2009

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  • Who is to say that preschooling your child at home is any less? You can take your child to a park on the warmer days or set up play dates, or... I have a three a year old I decided I am not putting her in a preschool until she is four... Why? Because I do not want her that advanced that by the time she gets to kindergarten she is bored with it. Honestly, I am not in a hurry and I know my child will do just fine in school.

    Answer by TheFriskyKitty at 11:09 AM on Feb. 8, 2009

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  • My oldest child is in kindergarten and my youngest is in preschool. WHen I took my daughter for kindergarten registration last year, I relized how important it is to send your kids to preschool. The children who hadn't been to school were muuuuch clingier, several cried. Also, they weren't as prepared for kindergarten. For example, the children in my daughter's class are progressing much better than the kids who didn't attend preschool. I've also seen the difference in my son and his friends who aren't in preschool. He's more social and knows more that a lot of them. (Of course I do read to both of my children a lot and I work with them on math, science and that probably has something to do with it as well.)

    Answer by CurvieMomma at 1:09 PM on Feb. 8, 2009

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  • Your child is turning 3 not four so she will still have a year of preschool b/f kinder. I would send the one who is ready and keep the other home until she starts getting interested too. You are the mommy not the therapist, and chances are when she sees sis going she'll want to go as well. Then you can reassess the situation, and its not like they have to start in the FALL only, they can start when YOU and THEM are ready. My son went at 2 (almost 3) and did start for the fall semester, my daughter did not start until 3.5, and actually after the year had already started b/c that was what worked for our family. YOU R the deciding factor in your childs life.

    Answer by MamiJaAyla at 1:23 PM on Feb. 8, 2009

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  • people say that children who go to preschool will have a greater chance in going to college. I think pre school is a good way for children separate from their parents, make new friends, children get prepared for kindergarten.  I am a SAHM I sent both my daughters to preschool just a few hours a week.  My daughters are teenagers now.  I have 4 year old twin boys and they do not go to preschool.  They will start kindergarten in the fall, I read to them daily, they learn through play, I do have them both in speech once a week, we do arts and crafts, have many play dates, I know they will be fine and prepared once they start kindergarten.  The only thing which may be difficult is for them they will bein separate classes


    Answer by mommiedear at 1:29 PM on Feb. 8, 2009

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  • The kindergarten curriculum has changed and is now more rigorous than it used to be. If the therapist is recommending pre-school for the one you feel isn't ready the socialization and learning to be independant (pluse learning to follow directions) piece must be something the therapist is concerned about.
    There's a lot of time between now and Sept. and you may find that the one you think isn't ready now, is ready then. Many pre-school programs encourage parents to bring children to visit/participate before school starts. Try to do this and see if it makes a difference.
    Perhaps you could enroll the one who is ready in a three day a week program and the other in a two day program. If it comes down to it, you can always pull the one out if it's not a good fit in the fall.

    Answer by twinclubmom at 2:39 PM on Feb. 8, 2009

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