I don't like my baby. What is wrong with me?

i dont really know what's wrong with me. i just can't stand my baby most of the time. i thought i'd love being a mom, but it really sucks. i just dont think i have it in me to support and love another when i can't stand myself. i made her cry today, on purpose & its her birthday. i scream and yell at her. just because she's there. she's only 12 months and i can already see the damage that i'm causing. i dont want her life to be horrible like mine has been, but i just dont know how to stop sometimes. therapy would be great if the first available appointment wasn't 6 months away (with my amazing welfare/state insurance) and i can't afford to buy myself a new bra let alone 100 a week to talk to someone. and her father's worse off than i am. too busy shooting dope to actually get a job and help support his child. i wish i could win the lottery so i could hire a nanny. i never should have had a baby. i don't know what i was thinkin

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Asked by Anonymous at 12:24 PM on Feb. 21, 2009 in Babies (0-12 months)

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  • All I can tell ya is to take it one day at a time
    Briyawna

    Answer by Briyawna at 12:29 PM on Feb. 21, 2009

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  • How about putting her up for adoption to someone who will love her and take care of her. theres nothing wrong with that.It takes someone speciall to do that, why don't you be that someone special and give her the life she deserves
    Kat122

    Answer by Kat122 at 12:29 PM on Feb. 21, 2009

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  • For how long that has been going on?
    Every mother I know went through a phase where they didnt like their kids very much - you will see that the more you play with her the more will you rebond and start to like her.

    PLESE whatever you do dont hit her... you will be really sorry after.

    Do you have anyone that can take her for the day? Can you talk to any family member about it (someone who will help you NOT judge you)?

    Can you call your doctor? you might be going through post partum depression.
    Paty_hotmommy

    Answer by Paty_hotmommy at 12:31 PM on Feb. 21, 2009

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  • Sounds like postpartum depression. Make an appointment with your OBGYN, let him know that you think that you have PPD and need to be seen. Also, if you are near a college, their psych department offers counseling at reduced rates, sliding scale type of thing. My daughter went here to UNT's Psych Dept and her counseling sessions were just $4!! Also, call your local Mental Health Department, they may be able to help you and/or steer you where you should go. GET HELP NOW!! Postpartum Depression is real, it's well known, don't be ashamed of it, I suffered with it with 3 out of my 5 children! GET HELP!! If you need to vent, please feel free to PM me anytime. It is a chemical imbalance and your hormones are still out of whack, it is serious and you need help NOW! Sending you hugs, but I can't stress enough the seriousness of getting help now!

    blessed5x

    Answer by blessed5x at 12:32 PM on Feb. 21, 2009

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  • Try getting in with a pastor. They usually wont charge you anything and would be great support until you get into therapy. Even if you don't go to church if you want to do whats best for your child and yourself you will seek one out.
    krazyash023

    Answer by krazyash023 at 12:32 PM on Feb. 21, 2009

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  • honey...we all feel like this sometimes. The truth is, motherhood is often glamorized and we feel pressure to be June Cleaver. It is just not that easy. i would often go though this with my first. I lost my temper alot...and could never understand why I did not like spending time with my baby. I would often let my parents take her for the weekend so I didn't have to deal with her. Like you, I would wonder why I did it to myself.

    The good news. I was just not comfortable with an infant. As she got older and could communicate with me, I got better. Now she is 8 and we have a great relationship. It happens that way. My sister was not good with toddlers and did NOT get along with her son during that time. She has been better since then, though.

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:33 PM on Feb. 21, 2009

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  • If this is how you really feel perhaps the best thing you can do as a parent is give her up for adoption. Love her enough to let her go. At minimum you need to go to a Dr. There is every possibility what is going on is PPD/PPP. If it is related to postpartum then it isn't your fault, but you do need help. You and your child could be in danger if it is and not treated. Dial a crisis hotline if you just need someone to talk to.

    GrnEyedGrandma

    Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 12:33 PM on Feb. 21, 2009

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  • Kat122 is right too... If you really dont want to be a mom no matter what you do to make it better you can put her up for adoption.
    Nothing wrong with that!
    Paty_hotmommy

    Answer by Paty_hotmommy at 12:33 PM on Feb. 21, 2009

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  • Please keep in mind, too, that postpartum depression can last a full year. You may be experiencing this and not even know it. I think too often, we blame ourselves for all of our feelings when hormones may be to blame. Be patient....be easy on yourself, too.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:34 PM on Feb. 21, 2009

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  • anon 1233 you are wrong - We all don't feel like this sometimes. I have never NOT liked my son. He is the same age as her daughter. I have never purposely wanted to make my child cry. She needs to seek help. People above had given great advice.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:36 PM on Feb. 21, 2009

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