What should I do if kids are bullying my son with text messages?

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Asked by Anonymous at 6:18 PM on Feb. 21, 2009 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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It depends on if it is a one time occurrance or an ongoing thing. If it was once or twice, I would respect my son's request to stay out of it (let him handle it). If it is an ongoing problem, I would save the message. Then I might send a text back to say that you picked up your son's phone and noticed the message and wanted to let the kid know that since you own the phone (not your son) you are monitoring the text messages and are saving them. See if that stops it. If it does not, I would then take the saved messages and talk to someone of authority (principle, police officer, etc.) as to how to best handle.

Answer by momjs at 11:24 PM on Feb. 21, 2009
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Getting in contact with the children's parents would improve things, but very temporarily. Your son would probably be labeled a 'tattletale' and further bullied, so I agree with him.

Can't you get your son's phone number changed? And how did these little boys get his phone number anyways?

Answer by .Peaches. at 6:21 PM on Feb. 21, 2009
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1. Why do they have his number? 2. Are they texting him during school? If so, He should not have his phone on during school.
Get his number changed!

Answer by Anonymous at 6:22 PM on Feb. 21, 2009

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Speak with the principal at the school to advise them of the situation, and if they don't take steps to correct the problem speak to the parents. If things continue to escalate call the cops. You can change the cell number but it takes just one person to give it out for all this to start again.Do not allow this to continue because bullying can turn into outright physical violence. I wish you and your child luck in this situation.

Answer by BooBear666 at 6:25 PM on Feb. 21, 2009
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talk to the principal & get rid of his cell phone.

Answer by Kiter at 6:29 PM on Feb. 21, 2009
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change his number and talk to the principal

Answer by aliciatron at 6:33 PM on Feb. 21, 2009
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schools do have methods and training to handle bullying--- WITHOUT making it known that the kid is a tattle tale.... teachers notice these things more than you might think. I am student teaching in a high school right now- if nothing else the teachers can be told to watch out and make sure the offenders do not surround your son or act out at him in the hallway...
I also agree with changing his number.

Answer by LuckyClown at 7:48 PM on Feb. 21, 2009
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Have a meeting with the Principal teachers students and their parents. Make it very clear they either leave your son alone or your having everyone arrested for harrasment. They are really taking this bullying thing seriously nowadays so yes saving the texts messages is a good thing because it's evidence.
Get involved and make sure you keep on your promise. If they continue to harrass your son then make sure the local police department is notified so they are aware your not playing games.

Answer by mommatime78 at 8:04 PM on Feb. 21, 2009
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Yup mommatime it is considered cyber bullying.

Answer by Gigi1969 at 10:59 PM on Feb. 21, 2009
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Contact the parents and the school. It may get worse for your son for a while but it will get better just as quickly. Another option would be to get a new phone number and not release it.

Answer by teamquinn at 2:41 AM on Feb. 22, 2009
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