When should I tell my boss I'm not coming back to my job after the baby arrives?

I plan on staying home with my baby once it's born. I am currently 4 1/2 months into my pregnancy and I am interested in hearing other peoples opinions on when I should notify my boss that I don't plan on coming back.


Asked by Anonymous at 2:51 PM on Feb. 26, 2009 in Pregnancy

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  • It totally depends on YOUR job and YOUR boss/coworkers.

    Are you afraid to get fired before hand? Would you mind to let them replace you and you train the new girl? Do you want a good reference? Is it a big company where you might in the future (or you so) want a job there again? There are alot of things to consider.

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:54 AM on Feb. 27, 2009

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  • You find out how much notice you need to give to quit your job.Sometimes it 2 week notice,,sometimes it's a months notice. Pregnant or not that's what you should go by.


    Answer by louise2 at 2:55 PM on Feb. 26, 2009

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  • Well, my question to you is...do you have short-term disability that you will be using once you have the baby? Because I would wait until the 6 weeks of short-term disability is used, then tell...that way you don't lose the chance to get that money while you're out. That may sound a little twisted and greedy...but if you have worked for this company for a long time, the least they can do is let you have a portion of your paychecks for short term for 6 weeks. Then you can tell them you're not coming back. But of course, if you don't have short term disability...I would wait until you're over 6 months pregnant to tell them. This way they can't fire you beforehand and say that it was for some other reason. I hope this made sense and helps in some way. Good luck!

    Answer by MammaKittie at 2:57 PM on Feb. 26, 2009

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  • I would give a proper 2 weeks notice. If you tell them now they may start looking to replace you now!

    Answer by customcat2000 at 3:18 PM on Feb. 26, 2009

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  • I would give 2 weeks notice - that is the standard. I guess it depends on if you plan to ever use this job as a reference in the future...if you do plan to use it I'd check with HR or your manual (depending on what sort of job you have) to see what they expect.

    Answer by stepmom929 at 4:42 PM on Feb. 26, 2009

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  • I wouldn't tell them too soon, you have to protect yourself and you probably need the benefits....Do be fair and tell them as soon as you can without hurting yourself!

    Answer by BJoan at 4:52 PM on Feb. 26, 2009

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  • as another mom mentioned if you can get paid maternity leave take it. Its unfortunate that employers will fire you because your pregnant and sometimes splaying just as dirty is required. I wouldnt say anything until you are two weeks away form being ready to quit. Take that maternity leave if you get it at the end just tell your boss your plans have changed and you plan on staying home with your child. Thank him or her for this great opportunity and try to leave on a good note in case you ever need the reference

    Answer by humaniterian87 at 5:35 PM on Feb. 26, 2009

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  • are you receiving any benefits from work; time off, medical? If you have medical through there you want to go back and work 6 weeks (think that's what it is) and then quit with 2-4 weeks notice. That could be part of the 6 weeks.

    Answer by partiesbyjan at 7:42 PM on Feb. 26, 2009

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  • well I am a teacher and I told my boss right away ... we ended up compromising and i work pt in the mornings only.  I also do something at home to supplement my income.  it is free, legitimate and pays me well and on time.

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    Answer by blakesma at 5:56 PM on Feb. 27, 2009

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