Is anyone else afraid to send their child to preschool?

I and my husband do not see eye to eye on the matter of preschool, I'm not saying I dont think it would be good for her, I'm Just very pertective of her. She is three years old and he thinks she is ready, I dont think she is old enough to let us know if some one were to touch her even though we talk about it with her already. I hate letting her get baby sat and she has olny been a hand full of times by family I trust. I am absoulutly terrified somthing will happen to her, being malested as a child my self, and all the horrabile things you see on the news about preschools and daycares, doesnt help my situation much, Id'e like to wait untill she is four, I tell my husband I'm not willing to risk her innocense. Any advice? Is three to young? Or am I over reacting?


Asked by deliriousmommy at 10:00 PM on Feb. 26, 2009 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • IMO you are overreacting.

    some moron could crash into me while driving... does that keep me from going to the store? NO!

    my kid may get beat up one day in school... will I keep him home forever instead of allowing him to learn? NO!

    If 3 years old was too young for preschool, then preschool wound't accept 3 year olds, they'd only accept 4 year olds.

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:04 PM on Feb. 26, 2009

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  • I was very conflicted with this as well. I made the decision to let him go and if it didn't turn out well- I would pull him out. he LOVES it. He has grown socially and so very smart. He knows syllabication, his ABCs is writing his name and SO MUCH MORE! You can always try it out. If you feel that it is not working for her- pull her out. But I think you will find yourself amazed

    Answer by ZaTa at 10:08 PM on Feb. 26, 2009

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  • My son was nervous about going but after the first 2 weeks or so I started to notice improvments in his behavior! He was picking up his toys after playing with them...he was saying please and thank you more often....he shared his toys better....he would sing me songs that he has learned....he would paint me pictures that I still have hung up in my house.................I can go on and on!! LOL I think pre-K is a great program and as long as you and the teacher are on the same page with your childs learning...they will be just fine!! Good luck!

    Answer by mominbolt at 10:11 PM on Feb. 26, 2009

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  • My son started preschool when he was four, I personally think 3 is to young, but it's because I don't think the kids are ready. I agree with Anoy anything can happen anywhere so just live and don't be scared but always be cautious.

    Answer by m_allen at 10:12 PM on Feb. 26, 2009

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  • I'm not planing on keeping her from school I'm just aprehencive,I was just trying to explain why I am worried, how I feel, and was wondering if three is old enough to tell you if somthing does happen.

    Answer by deliriousmommy at 10:17 PM on Feb. 26, 2009

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  • You know your child well enough to know wether or not she is able to tell if something does happen to her. Each child is different.

    However, I believe that if you are uneasy about sending her, you might try to allow her to go, and for the first couple of weeks, volunteer in the classroom with her. Every preschool is different, but most love the extra help for story time or crafts. I had to do that with my oldest, but by my second child, I became more relaxed about it.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:10 PM on Feb. 26, 2009

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  • try it.. maybe she will like it.. my son didn't realize he was away from grandma for two weeks because it was soooooooo much fun

    Answer by ramirezmami at 2:08 AM on Feb. 27, 2009

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  • Trust yourself. You will know when she is ready. In the mean time get involved in parent-child activities. Some suggestions include: story hour at the library, church clubs, parks and rec activities, homeschool groups... etc. They are only babies for so long, and have the rest of their life to be in school.

    Answer by squish at 2:33 AM on Feb. 27, 2009

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  • If you stay at home, so should your daughter. What is the hurry? You can read to her, play games, run errands, do puzzles. This is her school. Plus she will be sick less often. If you want to teach her to read, next year buy the book "How to read in 100 easy lessons". 15-30 min a day, and at the end of the book, she will be equivalent to a 2nd grader for reading.

    Meanwhile let her play and have fun. Enjoy this time with her. It will not come again.

    I didn't send my daughter until she was almost 6 as I didn't want her to be the youngest one in Kindergarten (her DOB is 8/23). She started school knowing how to read, and has excelled every since. We had so much fun together. I am glad I put her in later. She is now the smartest (her words) kid in the 4th grade.

    Answer by moneymagnetmom at 3:17 AM on Feb. 27, 2009

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  • I work with 3-5 year olds in preschools. The 3 year olds are in school because they have special needs that they need to be worked with from an early age. I feel that if your child is doing fine in her development then she really only needs to go to one year of preschool. That is as long as she spends her 3 year old year learning with you at home and spending some time with same aged children at the park or on a playdate to their home.

    Answer by LovetoTeach247 at 5:19 AM on Feb. 27, 2009

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