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Is it common for a boy who is starting puberty to be cranky?

Is this common, or should I be trying to see if something is wrong with him? Everything I say irritates him. I mean even "Good Morning" gets me a bad look. Up to now he has always been the sweetest kid. Could it be puberty (he is showing physical signs), or could something really be wrong (which I have tried to ask him about too, and he always says 'nothing is wrong').


Asked by Anonymous at 2:46 PM on Feb. 27, 2009 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • It could be normal; I've seen that happen in girls as well.

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:49 PM on Feb. 27, 2009

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  • which I had a response for you but in fact I am experiencing the same thing with my 10yo son. He has always had an amazing personality always cheerful and friendly and we have a great relationship until recently. The mornings are the worst. He wakes up super cranky and just seems to be annoyed, irritated or bored when I speak to him. I had attributed it to the fact that I just had another baby and he perhaps was feeling some jealousy and didn't know how to express that OR my other thought was that because he is now 10yo I allow him to go to bed an hour later than he used to but this seems to result in his being crankier in the morning. Sigh...if anyone out there has any other thoughts or suggestions, please do share with us.

    Answer by riosordo at 2:53 PM on Feb. 27, 2009

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  • Yeh, I was thinking the same thing too. I keep trying to get him to go to sleep earlier, but for various different reasons it just never seems to work out. I keep asking him if something is wrong at school. Or if something has happened to him (which of course seems to bug him even more). My husband said that he went through the same thing. Something about the extra testosterone. I just wanted to see if others have had the same experience.

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:59 PM on Feb. 27, 2009

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  • yep, it's what puberty is all about. His hormones are changing just like you during PMS but without estrogen! Cut the boy some slack.

    Answer by admckenzie at 9:56 PM on Feb. 27, 2009

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  • Wow, this isn't my question and I got a lot of info, my 10 yr. old has his moments and he is starting to get signs of puberty.

    Answer by Gigi1969 at 11:45 PM on Feb. 27, 2009

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  • Yes, it is puberty. My ex's teenage nephews were like that. Ugh. Send Dad to talk to him if you are really concerned about something. Boys start spending more time with Dad at this age. (I am going to be a mess when that happens!)

    Answer by Trixiebelle2 at 1:03 AM on Feb. 28, 2009

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  • I'm sorry!!! Can't help it !!! Gotta say it!!! Too Easy!!! Ofcourse he's getting cranky!!! His poor little body is going into full-on MAN training!!! : ) haha!!! Just my warped sense of humor.

    Answer by graciesmom164 at 10:10 AM on Feb. 28, 2009

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  • I think it is probably normal, but be careful about how you handle it because you don't want to let a stage like that effect your overall relationship. Don't let yourself avoid him because of how he acts...and just in case something is on his mind, you will be there to talk when he is ready! (now or in the future)

    Answer by BJoan at 11:05 AM on Feb. 28, 2009

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    My 13 yo son is a moody, emotional basket case lately. I asked my husband if it could be pueberty and he said "no that only girls get moody like that". Since I have never been a teenage boy and he has, I have hearted believed him.....but now I KNOW, this has all the signs of pueberty.

    And dang, girls sure do get a bad rap for being moody teenagers.... now we know boys do it too.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:44 AM on Feb. 28, 2009

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  • YES they do! I grew up in a family of all girls so I had no idea what boys went through. My SS12 has been going through this since the fall and it has not been pretty! He's so irritable and nasty (which is not typical behaviour for him). He's gets nasty and violent with his younger sister and he argues with me and my BF about EVERYTHING and it usually ends up with him cursing at my BF. I know this may sound weird, but my BF has resorted to putting him in time outs again and they have been working wonders. SS will go into his room screaming and cursing and come out calm and polite. I think he just needs to learn to manage his feelings. I just hope it doesn't last too much longer.

    Answer by not-the-momma at 10:43 AM on Feb. 16, 2010

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