How do I get my kid to do homework?

My son, Tyler, refuses to do and turn in homework and has gotten disrespectful to his teacher and me. He is very intelligent and knows the material but just seems lazy. I have tried grounding him, taking away all electronics, lecturing,etc. He has had fun times taken away at school and nothing is working. I am at my wits end and have run out of ideas. Please help!!!!

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tyfry7496

Asked by tyfry7496 at 10:43 AM on Mar. 14, 2009 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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  • Sit there with him till he gets it done and start taking away his things and have him earn them back one at a time. He does nothing but come home and do what he has to do. No talking with friends, NOTHING

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:45 AM on Mar. 14, 2009

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  • I have the same problem. Mine does his home work but doesn't turn it in. His excuse "the teacher didn't ask for it". Mine has been grounded, Tv taken from his room, and his about tho get his beloved hair cut. Nothing has worked.
    michelle1219

    Answer by michelle1219 at 12:11 PM on Mar. 14, 2009

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  • Take everything away from him that is non essential until he proves himself worthy. Is it all home work or certain subjects. If it is certain subjects maybe he needs a tutor. When I was little my dad use to say a good foot in the @@@ is my solution for her until he realized the subjects I put off were mind boggling to me. I put a wall up around me when it came to certain subjects. Then he found this free tutoring program with The Boys Club of America and put me in it. My tutor was great and he did improve my grade up two levels.
    CShah

    Answer by CShah at 12:18 PM on Mar. 14, 2009

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  • I had the same problem with my children. I finally contacted the schoool principal and the teachers explaining how my children were not bringing home homework, and if they did they never turned it in. I finally started having a teacher consultant for the school monitor a daily planner, send me home emails a few times a week and told the teachers to make sure to specifically ask for the homework and allow them to get it out of their backpack if they forgot to bring it to class. Once my kids learned that there is no escaping their homework duties and that we were all on the same page, things have gone much better. My son is now on the honor roll for the first time in his life for two quarters in a row and now is proud of himself knowing that he can do well. I just got to get my daughter to follow suit.
    HelenRN

    Answer by HelenRN at 1:27 PM on Mar. 14, 2009

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  • Two things: 1) you can't let him be disrespectful to you or the teacher; address that as a seperate issue. I don't know your discipline routine, but get the respect thing under control - quickly
    2) you say he is very intelligent; has he been placed in advance classes? If so, maybe the homework thing is because he is bored. Homework is designed to provide practice for newly learned skills. If he knows the information he is "newly" learning, then the homework becomes "busy" work. Talk to his teacher and inquire about his homework being on the topic but kicked up a level. This gives him exposure to the new material but a deeper understanding of it. This could make him more interested in homework.
    jesse123456

    Answer by jesse123456 at 4:23 PM on Mar. 14, 2009

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  • This is what I did, my son brought up all of his grades because of it...
    We made him bring all books home, I went thru and made copies of extra work, he had to do after reg homework was done and checked, everyday, even on weekends, then I went to class and sat in to see what was going on in the classroom. I made a homework sheet ran off copies and he has it taped to a homework folder and has to be filled in and signed by me and the teacher everyday. He has an insentive list, he does well he earns something he wants back. I have stayed on top of him, he doesn't get all of his things back until I see all A's and B's on his report card at the end of 4th quarter... He just got his 3rd Quarter report card and it's all A's B's and C's , so theres more work to do but he came up from the bottom (F's)... PM me if you want to... GL
    4x4mum

    Answer by 4x4mum at 5:14 PM on Mar. 14, 2009

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  • I have tried all the ideas given. I do NOT tolerate disrespect and he knows this. As to assignment notebooks, he has one and is supposed to fill it out and have each teacher initial it, and the last teacher of the day reminds him to bring all his homework home. The problem is him remembering to have the teachers sign the notebook. He has ADD so the remembering is an issue and the teachers are not so willing to take the minute to make sure he is filling out his assignment notebook. He already has everything taken away and he still doesn't care. He would be in honors math but he refused to do the homework and the teacher let him know that he could drop to regular math (without talking to me first-i would have kept him in honors). If I had the money he woould be at Huntington Learning Centers for tutoring. Thanks for all the help, I appreciate it. Hopefully this is just part of puberty and he will out grow it.
    tyfry7496

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 5:59 PM on Mar. 14, 2009

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  • Help him w/ homework. Break it down in pieces, he may feel that it's too big a load. put one paper in front of him put the others out of site. have him concentrate on just that ONE, then he can get a reward. 10 minutes on the computer or whatever...then do it again. Taking breaks here and there. He may feel overloaded. Schools nowaday are so different than they were in our day.
    jennmdlc

    Answer by jennmdlc at 5:22 AM on Mar. 15, 2009

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  • jennmdic I would help him with the math that seems to be where he has the issues but what he is doing is beyond my skills. Also, there is no way that it is too much for him to do, he is just being lazy. He should have no problem doing 10 math problems a night. I will not reward him if I have to sit there and hold his hand, he is going to be 13 and he needs to learn how to do the work himself. I think part of the problem is that he simply doesn't like the teacher and hasn't from the first day of school. I will not reward him until he can work independently, turn in the work and improve his attitude.
    tyfry7496

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 2:29 PM on Mar. 15, 2009

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  • That's a tough question. My son is 2, so we haven't been through that yet. If you've tried everything else, maybe bribery? Finish your homework, and we'll go get ice cream? Good luck!

    bethelann2004

    Answer by bethelann2004 at 2:07 AM on Mar. 16, 2009

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