What are some good ways to deal with tantrums?


Asked by JazeezMommy at 3:07 PM on Jul. 29, 2008 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • Walk away!

    Answer by lolly507 at 3:09 PM on Jul. 29, 2008

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  • Well, my daughter is 20 months old and Time outs work wonders for her! All I do is Scream to the top of my lungs TIME OUT and she just stops what she is doing!!

    Answer by AmberleesMoMMy at 3:31 PM on Jul. 29, 2008

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  • I don't handle tantrums well, the noise gets on my nerves. My son would only get louder when I walked away. I realized that making him sit in Time Out worked. in a week tops he stopped his tamtrums. I was consitsent. I din't care where we were. I did it mostly at WalMart when he was made b/c he wanted something. I would stop pushing the buggy, pick him up and sit him on th floor (out of everyones way) He was not able to leave that spot, if he did I put him right back. When he got done, I would ask him if he was ready, most of the time he would jumped up ready to go.And I would continue with my shopping.

    Answer by Peacefully at 3:41 PM on Jul. 29, 2008

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  • Be consisitant! Don't give in. Time out corners are great it takes a bit of time before you will see results, and it definatley tries your nerves. One minute for every year old. I did get at the point that I brought the car seat in so my son would have to sit in it. It helped me not lose it. Good Luck!

    Answer by cutzdahair at 4:22 PM on Jul. 29, 2008

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  • Redirect. She can't learn anything while in the midst of a tantrum so you have to stop the tantrum first. I love throwing myself on the floor next to my 2 year old. I say "Can I help"? and I either start throwing my own super silly tantrum or I grab her legs or arms and start swinging them around for her (gently, please moms dont make this a thing) Soon enough she starts laughing. After I get her calmed down then I talk to her calmly about how she can tell me what she needs or wants, or about accepting no or not right now for an answer.

    Answer by HadassasMommy at 4:03 PM on Jul. 30, 2008

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  • Good Luck! I am currently dealing with the same situation. My 15 month old throws his tantrums when he doesnt get his way or if we close a door on him (pantry door, bathroom door, front door, fridge).

    I am trying to redirect him but sometimes that is difficult. I think next will be using timeouts.

    Answer by MommyPankratz at 4:36 PM on Jul. 30, 2008

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  • This is unorthodox but it worked for me on all five of mine. First of all and most important- I stayed calm. Then I gave them permission to throw the fit, the catch was they had to do it on the couch (if we were out then in a public bathroom or bench). If they got up I just put them back. When they were done, I would ask if they were finished and did they feel better. They still didn't get what started the fit in the first place and they learned very quickly that behaving that way isn't going to get them what they want. The longest I had to do this behavior modification was three weeks.

    Answer by MomShawn70 at 8:43 PM on Jan. 14, 2009

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  • I just let them yell it out and then deal with them when they are over the madness...

    Answer by HottMamaRossx2 at 4:18 PM on Jan. 22, 2009

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  • Try Toddlerease like they suggest in the "Happiest Toddler on the Block" book. The basic idea is to show empathy by throwing a mini-fit. Put in simple words what you think they are mad about or just "NO NO NO MOMMY!" or "NO Leave! PLAY PLAY PLAY!" and usually they will stop to watch you in a few seconds and then stop fussing and smile or laugh. Then you can pick them up, hold them and explain what you need them to do. "I'm sorry we can't stay to play, but we have to go home now. We will play at home." I did this in public for the first time with my son yesterday (he is 23 months old) and it worked like a charm and his tantrum ended almost immediately. Thank goodness, because I'd hurt my back and was not able to pick him up and carry him out, I needed him to walk on his own. It worked.

    Answer by AngelWendyMama at 10:49 AM on Feb. 3, 2009

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  • When my children were alittle older~like around 2 1/2 - 3, we had a specific place for all tantrums. Our place was the bathroom.Once the tantrum started I would say, "OK, if you are going to behave this way, then you must go into the bathroom to have your tantrum because I do not want to see it". I would then escort my child into the bathroom(usually at this point the tantrum had stopped & he or she was incredulous to the fact that they had "permission" to have a fit! I would then say, "you go right ahead & have your fit, but only in the bathroom.There's even a mirror for you to see yourself having a fit & you can even wash your face with the water. However, you will remain in this room until all "fit throwing" is finished, then you may come out & join us when you are ready to behave." Rest assured, my children readily threw a fit just as soon as they could to see if I was serious.They were quickly cured of their "fits"!

    Answer by MissTishaboo at 8:51 AM on Mar. 18, 2009

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