How do you prepare your child to have good manners at his/her birthday party?

Im preparing my son for his 3rd birthday,it seems his second he didnt relize the gifts were even for him...this time around im telling him people ill give you presents and your to say thank you...problem is its a large party and I KNOW he will be shy,any suggestions?


Asked by Chrystal_A at 8:44 PM on Mar. 23, 2009 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • Keep reminding him to say thank you when he opens the gifts. Tell him to smile and admire the gift. You can even do a trial run. Wrap some of his toys with him, then let him take off the wrapping. You and he can pretend that each gift comes from one of his animals or stuffed animals. Thank you, Fluffy, for the nice book! He should also know to greet each person and to thank them for coming when they leave. This will all be very charming - everyone will be impressed by his good manners, and he'll learn about how to behave graciously. I think it is delightful that you are teaching him manners.

    Answer by Bmat at 8:48 PM on Mar. 23, 2009

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  • I used to have the person who gave the child the gift stand by the birthday child when they opened it. After he/she opened it, I took a picture of them holding it up with the person that gave it to them and asked my child to say thank you (and give a hug or kiss or high five). The picture can be kept in your memory book to show who was at the party, what your child received and I printed an extra set of the pictures to send to each person after the party with a thank you note. There are also some kid friendly books for kids to read on manners (written in a way they can understand)  Click thru page 15 thru 19 for the kids books on manners


    Answer by momjs at 10:58 PM on Mar. 23, 2009

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  • i wouldn't worry about it to much kids will be kids and im guessing the people that are coming to the party will know him and know what he is like i think it is great you are teaching him about manners but with all the hype that goes along with the he will completly forget and be more intersted in the next present maybe try and set aside a time during the party for him to open all the presents together with everyone around and sit beside him and say "what do you say?" if he doesn't just laugh it off and say thanks for him but his expression will say a thousand words and parents are normally happy with that. and maybe after that you could go up to each guest and say stuff like "that was such a cool present" or he has been wanting one of those or i wanted to get him been looking for it in the shops. just enjoy the day they are only 3 once and the most important thing is that they enjoy it

    Answer by tumtum360 at 7:12 PM on Mar. 24, 2009

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