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Do you check on your teens to see if they're sexting?

do you go on you child’s myspace, or email, or even their cell phone and check what they are doing? do you feel like you are violating their privacy?


Asked by Anonymous at 8:36 PM on Mar. 27, 2009 in Teens (13-17)

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  • To heck with privacy. I will go on whatever I please when my kid lives in my house.

    Thats whats wrong with teens today. Too many parents bowing to children and their "rights"

    They can have privacy after they grow up and leave the house.

    (I am a mean tough momma!) lol

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:38 PM on Mar. 27, 2009

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  • No not at all! You are preparing them for that emotionally abusive spouse that goes through everything they have while they are in the bathroom, lmao, just kidding!

    IMO I think it is a parent's job to save their children from themselves, that include making sure they arent doing things that are going to adversely affect their entire lives.

    Answer by 2-1CavWife at 8:40 PM on Mar. 27, 2009

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  • As long as the parent is paying for the cell, then I see no problem. Computer use should be monitored as well, as in they use the computer out in the living room or whatnot.

    Answer by prettyrayray at 8:41 PM on Mar. 27, 2009

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  • Privacy...LOL of course not . If I pay the bill Im checking and then in my case.. even if I wasnt paying the bill Im still checking...YEp.. checking checking and checking

    Answer by jmaiden31 at 8:59 PM on Mar. 27, 2009

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  • well....It makes them feel like you dont trust them. so when they feel like that it makes them not want to talk to you. im still a teenager. and i would not ever trust my mother if she got into my privacy like that. if she wants to kno some thing then she needs to ask me when we are alone and there is free time. it makes me feel like shes my best friend. but at the same time not only a friend. but a mother as well. all at the same time.

    Answer by erica4569 at 9:00 PM on Mar. 27, 2009

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  • i was a teen not too long ago and all i have to say on this subject is a teen is going to do what they are going to do. If you catch them it will be embarrassing for BOTH you and her and if you ground her or whatever then you will only be driving her away. I say let her be and do what shes goign to do. Raise her to KNOW respect of herself, confidence and everything a young lady needs to know. My parents snooped and grounded and all that jaz and I just grew to hate and resent them. Again this in my opinion. Good luck!

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:32 PM on Mar. 27, 2009

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  • I periodically check his myspace page but do not read my sons texts. The reason being that is the way he mostly communicates with his friends so I think reading his text messages would be like if my parents had picked up the other phone EVERY TIME I was on the phone with a friend.

    Answer by goaliemom93 at 9:49 PM on Mar. 27, 2009

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  • She's still a child and subject to the rules of this home. Yes we check texts and lap top and we have found naughty things AND SHE KNEW WE CHECKED LOL

    So now we have stringent controls on both phone and computer.

    Answer by Praying at 10:03 PM on Mar. 27, 2009

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  • Uhh your driving your teen away. Back off! That's why teens don't talk to their parents because they are too annoying and nosy. Build the relationship on trust not snooping.

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:33 PM on Mar. 27, 2009

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  • I agree with anon. A lot of times when these subjects come up, parents pull the "I pay, I say" card or "my house, my rules" and totally throw out that teenagers are HUMANS with rights to privacy and needs for trust. If you have a good relationship with your kids and teach them right from wrong, there will be no need for snooping. My mom wasn't involved in my life for shit unless I did something wrong. Then she said she had the right to get into my... well everything. It's unjust.

    Answer by jus1jess at 10:36 PM on Mar. 27, 2009

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