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Do you check on your teens to see if they're sexting?

do you go on you child’s myspace, or email, or even their cell phone and check what they are doing? do you feel like you are violating their privacy?


Asked by Anonymous at 8:36 PM on Mar. 27, 2009 in Teens (13-17)

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  • Yes...check regularly! It's pretty simple to me....it's my job to protect my child.

    Answer by Loryl at 10:34 AM on Mar. 29, 2009

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  • My mom did her peeping in a subtle way. She never acctually took my phone but when I was texting she always asked questions to kind of hint that if there was something that I needed to tell her that I could without argument or consiquence. She made a facebook and a myspace and checks on me to this day! She just wants to keep me safe and I know that but I think I would reacted in a negative way if she just took my phone and passwords and snooped.

    Don't go looking for the stuff and if you happen to find it talk one on one instead of punishing. My mom usually got more out of me that way. I think it's important to stay involved it teens lives but they also need their privacy, seeing as this age is tough.

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:30 PM on Mar. 29, 2009

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  • lol- I do the subtle snooping thing, too - ask lots of questions, it's when the answers that I get don't "add up" or when the answers make me really concerned, or they're being very secretive and behaving out of the norm.

    When that happens, that's when they know we can and will use the passwords that we have to look into the situation on our own.

    As long as we don't have a reason to distrust them, we respect their privacy. When we have as reason, then we can and will take more drastic measures to keep them safe.

    Answer by sailorwifenmom at 6:11 PM on Mar. 29, 2009

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  • I don't feel like I go overboard (like the mom who said she reads her daughter's diary!), but if they don't haven't said or done anything for me to be concerend about, then they should be ok with it. I also am on my kids' friends lists so that I can at least see what their public profiles look like, but I don't check their messages. What they say to their friends is their business.

    Answer by AngieG. at 6:37 PM on Mar. 29, 2009

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  • OMG, seriously, maybe if your parents had checked up on u, you wouldnt be a teenager on cafemom! its a parents job to make sure there children are behaving, its not the teens job to behave there TEENS, there gonna be dirty and secertive, its in there DNA. YEs u should check there computer and there cells and ANYTHING else you feel like checking, if you feel the need to check than obciously you dont have a always "perfect" child and NO ONE DOES... You teens getting upset over your parents making sure that your being healthy and safe, get over it...your parents didnt check on you and now your not going out with friends or dating, or going to partys or movies or out with your bootie calls, your diapering and feeding and watching and calming the baby you made from being SILLY!

    Answer by judith_visco at 10:22 AM on Mar. 30, 2009

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  • i think u shuld trust your kids untill they give you a reason not to. i trust my kids, and they are very open with me. thank GOD.

    Answer by okc-mom-2 at 8:46 PM on Apr. 3, 2009

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  • i have found that checking my childs cell phone text messages doesnt help much!
    i know she erases the bad texts or when she is "sexting" someone she deletes them rght after she did it. so if you really want to make sure your child isnt sexting dont give them a cell phone.

    Answer by LucyG. at 11:05 PM on Apr. 10, 2009

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  • i check periodically, i have to find a way lately to get to his cell phone because he has it with him always. I will probably sneak in his room at night and check. his my space i have his password and i check to see what websites he's been on, he knows i check and i discuss with him the importance of being responsible and what can happen if he is not. if i'm checking that means other mothers are and if they see something from him they don't like, how embarrassing or damaging. all teens make mistakes, they have to in order to learn. so i believe you have to protect them as a mom, so they can DEAL with their mistakes. you don't want the mistake to be to big. like ending up on the "sex offenders list". for goodness sake!!!


    Answer by momlovingmoms at 10:47 PM on Jun. 16, 2009

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  • YES!!!!!!!! please check your child's cell phone! Sexting is a crime!!! it's really illegal your child can be chaged with distributing porn save them from that humilation

    Answer by Kaerazo at 12:59 PM on Dec. 30, 2009

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  • NO.


    Answer by KFree907 at 2:33 PM on Jan. 11, 2010

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