What are reasonable chores for a teen?

My daughter is 14 and has 2 chores - the kitchen and the bathroom. She also has to keep her room clean of course. She thinks is too much. She even told me her friends Moms are SAHM's so they don't have to do chores because the Moms do it. I'm constantly finding dirty dishes (meaning she didn't clean them good) in the cabinets and today I spent 3 hours scrubbing the kitchen because I was finding food and spills in places she should of seen if she had cleaned it right. All she has to do is dishes, wipe the counters down, and take out the trash. That doesn't seem like a lot to me, but she can't seem to grasp this!

So, what are reasonable chores for a 14 yr old?

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Asked by Anonymous at 4:10 PM on Mar. 31, 2009 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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  • I did everything at my house when I was growing up. My mom was lazy as all hell. The reason kids have chores is to teach them responsibility. I learned quite a bit. I would suggest that you tell her its not what she thinks, you are the boss, and next time she doesn't do the chores right, tell her to redo them until they are done right. You can't clean up her mistakes, make her do it right the first time. Good luck!
    twocutetwins09

    Answer by twocutetwins09 at 4:14 PM on Mar. 31, 2009

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  • At that age she can be doing everything. I was doing my own laundry, washing and drying dishes, cleaning the bathroom, mopping and cleaning the kitchen, shoveling snow. Whatever needed to be done. My son will be 13 and he has been cleaning his room and the bathroom since he was 4, I am adding him doing the dishes and folding laundry. He also shovels the snow and cuts the grass. If she doesn't do the dishes correct the first time, make her wash ALL your dishes. That should make her do it right the first time. If she doesn't want to do the chores, then she gets no money, no priveleges.
    tyfry7496

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 4:23 PM on Mar. 31, 2009

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  • I am a SAHM and have homeschooled all three of my children. All three of them worked hard every day and did a fine job of it. I had to follow up and sometimes they had to do it over until it was right but they learned to do it as I would and were proud. Your daughter is lazy and wants to do other things, you have to stand firm! Work before play, that's always the Way.
    lilhoney

    Answer by lilhoney at 5:13 PM on Mar. 31, 2009

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  • wow... 2 chores!! i had way more than that.. and i did different ones on different days... except for dishes wish were everynight. bathroom and laundry were every friday (which i decided so i could have saturday to do what i pleased, mom's idea..), and whatever else my mom told me to do for the rest of the week.

    i'll be honest i hated it. but as a teen.. we never like what someone tells us to do. i got over it... and realized it was for the better. esp after hitting college. living on my own!

    2 is most certainly NOT unreasonable. she needs more friends that actually have a work ethic, so they can tell her how normal doing things their parents tell them to do is...
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:57 PM on Mar. 31, 2009

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  • That sounds fine. I had kids so they'd do all my work, too.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:52 PM on Mar. 31, 2009

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  • I am only twenty. At fourteen I was doing it all. With my dad being a single father, and raising three kids and having two sometimes three jobs, I did it all. Cooking, cleaning, shopping, laundry, getting my brother off to school. Fourteen is just fine for her to be doing all of her own things like laundry, bathroom, dishes, and trash. If i can do it all and help raise my little brother who had BAD ADHD, then she can do a few chores!!!!! =]

    oh and p.s. with the whole well my friends moms are SAHM and they dont have chores. Just tell her thats not your family and your not really interested in it. I guess they wont learn the values and responsibilities that she will need sooner than she thinks. college isnt THAT far away. and neither is the real world. just remember that, and btw i think your doing great!!!! =]
    mommykayti

    Answer by mommykayti at 11:06 PM on Mar. 31, 2009

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  • I am a SAHSM

    And no I don't think your daugther is doing too much. Just because I stay home doesn't mean I don't find other ways to contribute to the household but cleaning.

    Therefore her jobs are to:

    Mornings: Take the dog out to potty
    Afternoon: Tidy up room, make bed, put away things in lunch box, take the dog out to potty
    Evening: Help set table on occasion that she's asked, help do dishes on occasion that she's asked

    Once a week: Dust the house

    Once every other week: Change her sheets

    Once every other week: Clean her bathroom

    Once a week during spring/summer: help with yardwork

    THe punishemnt for very bad behavior - WEEDING

    She earns commissions on chores that are not normal contributions based on usage (ie. I don't pay her to clean her OWN bathroom or room but I do pay her to do yardwork)
    Praying

    Answer by Praying at 11:21 PM on Mar. 31, 2009

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  • Even my SAHM gave my brothers and me chores. Your daughter lives in the house and she helps make the mess. I think every teen complains about chores, but she will be the better for it. If 2 chores makes her groan, show her how good she had it and give her a couple more. If she complains, add another. Pretty soon you will be a kept MOM!
    jesse123456

    Answer by jesse123456 at 12:51 PM on Apr. 1, 2009

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  • My 15 yr boy has chores, empty dishwasher when needed, vacuum twice a week, mop kitchen floor once a week and keep his room clean. I am trying to teach him that he has to do something to get something because that is the way the world works. We have to go do a job to get our paycheck. It works most of the time but he is still a teenage boy.
    dillonsma

    Answer by dillonsma at 2:27 PM on Apr. 1, 2009

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  • My daughter is 13 and has a list of chores...that is how she works off her half of her cell phone bill with unlimited texting. She has to unload the dishwasher, set and clear the table, clean up after and feed/water the dog, clean her room, taking trash out and then once a week she gets a bonus $5 if she cleans house. During the summer she has to mow the grass and then gets paid $5 to mow the elderly neighbors lawn. She complains but I was raised doing chores and it taught me responsibility and I learned how to take care of my things. I am trying to teach her to take good care of her things and to clean up after herself. Once a week she has to cook dinner as well.
    kaylasmom0622

    Answer by kaylasmom0622 at 4:02 PM on Apr. 29, 2009

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