What are some appropriate things for teens to do on a date?

supervised at your home just the 2 of them...or at home with a group, bowling or movies or the mall...just the 2 of them or with a group... and would you stay there?? How much time would you allow? How many times a month? Daytime only or after dark, too? My other questions might give you a clue that we don't approve of our daughter dating (after we let her, supervised, and realized how impressionable she really is...smart in school, though), but are giving thought to allowing it w/new rules so as not to make the BF (we don't approve of...manipulative, sarcastic, moody, and needy) taboo and that much more attractive to her, w/hopes she comes around and dumps him. Could this work? Thoughts on some new boundaries? I should add...none of her 3 best friends date, though...


Asked by dflygirl7 at 10:36 AM on Apr. 7, 2009 in Teens (13-17)

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  • I do not let my 13yr old soon to be 14 yr old son have alone time with his girlfriend. They are allowed to go places only in groups, like the movies,bowling,or to the park. I let them to go the park only for and hour or so, but this park is very busy, the ball park is there, so there is always a lot of ppl there too.

    Answer by ronjwake at 10:41 AM on Apr. 7, 2009

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  • I wasn't supposed to date until I was 16 so I went behind my parents back by 13! After they found out I had supervised dates only. At our home...not even at his parents home because they didnt trust them (wise!). If we went to the movies my parents were with us. They also would get him involved with me in our youth group at church...automatic group dates and supervision.
    A curfew fixes your before/after dark question. They didnt restrict how many times, but if they thought I was spending too much time with him, they might say no a little more often.
    This all worked well on me, so I'll probably do the same for my kids.
    Ps...if you havent had the sex talk yet you need to!!

    Answer by MamaChamp at 10:43 AM on Apr. 7, 2009

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  • I think 14 is waaay too young to be dating. I will not allow it and will only allow her to group date once she is 16 or older. You only have one chance with your children and they are too young at 14 to make wise decisions that could affect the rest of their lives. Just my opinion.

    Answer by madsmom11597 at 11:29 AM on Apr. 7, 2009

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  • i think its too young, i dont understand how my DH mom let his girlfriend spend the nite in the same bed together at 15, even though he didnt have sex until he was 17 theres no way i would allow that in my house, i know one of my friends moms who has a 14 yr old daughter she lets her bf stay the nite too in her room, i dont understand their thinking

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:01 PM on Apr. 7, 2009

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  • to young to date and do not be afraid to say so. Have group outings, only. When she likes a boy, make sure he come over for dinner and get to know him. Keep them near.

    Answer by gammie at 2:51 PM on Apr. 7, 2009

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  • no dates at 14 in our home so..I cannot answer that

    Answer by mamakirs at 3:46 PM on Apr. 7, 2009

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  • I wouldn't allow a 14 yr old to date. They are not old enough. As far as in groups, movies, roller skating, amusement parks or the mall. There would be no one on one dating at that age. No dates in my house until atleast 16.

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 6:19 PM on Apr. 7, 2009

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  • If you trust her and she seems to have good morals and self respect than I would let her do group dates, rollerskating, bowling, miniture gulf etc., but no movies, that's where they make out

    Answer by staceynoel at 6:42 PM on Apr. 7, 2009

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  • I don’t understand everyone who says 14 is too young to date. If they’re supervised and you talk to you daughter a lot about dating and boyfriends then it’s fine. I’m not saying we should let our teens do things just because everyone else is, but this is the natural age that dating starts, and if you make them wait till their 16 or older, wont that just make them outcasts???? I say group dates only, no alone time and limit how often you let them go anywhere. Try to make some at your house with a group of friends. I monitor all communication, most of it is texting and e-mail now.

    Answer by Bear777 at 11:21 AM on Apr. 8, 2009

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  • I personally think 14 is not to young to date. Every situation depends on the kid, If they are mature I dont see why not but if they are immature then no. As for dating, if you leave them alone they will probably do things that you would not approve of.. I know I did. Im not saying every kid but most. So group dates in public places, not group dates at a friends house... if they want to they will probably have access to bedrooms, dens, unsupervised rooms and at that age their friends will condone it and not care so if you want them to "stay a maiden" (my moms phrase) then dont let them have dates alone or at friends houses.

    Answer by almostamommyof2 at 12:21 PM on Apr. 8, 2009

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