How do I make my stepson more comfortable with staying the night?

when we get my husbands son every other weekend and sometimes when he does'nt
want to go to bed. I just need to make him more comfortable without being the bad person.


Asked by conroesoon2bmom at 12:52 AM on Aug. 3, 2008 in Relationships

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  • try to be the " nice guy " watch a movie together, lunch, ice cream... ect.. put a night light in his room. make sure your always nice to him, kids pick up on things. so there must be a reason? Ask him

    Answer by surfgrl60 at 12:55 AM on Aug. 3, 2008

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  • I went to my dads on the weekends and it was just all around awkward for me. I didn't feel as if i could neccesarily be myself so i was very quite and I hated bedtime as well. So just try finding a way to bond with him. Let him be him. And you have to be yourself too. It's not easy just staying with your dad on the weekends so try planning activities that he likes to kind of open him up a bit so you guys can get to know each other.

    Answer by JJzMaMa87 at 1:14 AM on Aug. 3, 2008

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  • I'm a stepmom. My son was 4 when I became his stepmom. We bonded because I knew sign language and could communicate with him. He's eighteen now, and we're very close.

    Maybe there's something you can do with your stepson that would be your special bedtime routine. Does he have a bedtime ritual at his mom's that he might need to keep at your house? Does he have a favorite bedtime story or song? Maybe you two could talk about it and decide together what to do.

    I don't agree that you have to be nice to him all the time because at some point you are going to have to discipline him. However, I do think you need to find a special connection with him that is unique to your relationship with him and not the same as his bio mom's or his dad's.

    You obviously care about him, and he probably picks up on that. You'll figure it out.

    Answer by socwrkmomgrma at 3:25 AM on Aug. 3, 2008

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  • does he have his own bedroom at dad's place or space that's his own? if so maybe take a day and ask him to help you decorate it to how he would like it to be you can add things like a lamp radio photos stuff animal ect. . like if he's into cars or what ever ask what he would like in his room to make him be able to fall a sleep. My step son needs a bed time snack, shower and brush teeth and a movie usually does the trick let him fall a sleep watching a movie. What ever you do he needs a bed time routine and that should help. did he have any time with his dad that day alone with out you ? did he have time alone with you and time alone with the dad and you together so he feels like it's a family unit. You and your husband need to sit down and talk about what his bed time used to be like when he was with his ex and how you can make it better for him now.

    Answer by amanda_23 at 3:12 AM on Aug. 5, 2010

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