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What should I do when my son starts screaming and hitting?

My son is 22 months old and he screams bloody murder if I tell him no or if he doesn't get his way.. and then he hits me... I have no idea how to get him to stop. When he does it I try not to get mad or respond loudly because it makes him just scream louder... I've also tried getting a bit firm with him and that also doesn't work... again... he just screams louder. I read in a magazine that you're not supposed to yell or anything because it just shows them it's okay to be loud and scream. I'm out of ideas. Oh and I've also tried time out. Obviously that didn't work either or I wouldn't be asking. LoL. Any advise is welcome!!

Thanks In Advance.



Asked by MyLilManTravis at 10:18 PM on Aug. 3, 2008 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • About the only thing I could tell you is to ignore him. He's seen someone scream and yell and pitch a fit and end up getting their way so he thinks it's ok. I would just pick up whatever it is that he's into that he's not supossed to, or move him from whatever he's not supposed to be around, whatever caused you to tell him no in the first place in otherwords. Once he gets no reaction. He'll stop. Other than that, I don't know what to tell you.

    Answer by airmanswife1006 at 10:35 PM on Aug. 3, 2008

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  • i have found that time outs are working for my 2 year old. find a spot that is for the time outs. this is fun at first just because they will try to get up and run. but if he hits he sits in time out and i will hold his hand and tell him no hit. and hold his hands until he understands this. and i tell him why we don't hit. if he kicks i set him in time out and take his shoes then socks and then i'll hold his feet and tell him why we don't kick. my son doesn't like to not have shoes on so i think that this is why me taking shoes works. as far as the screaming i tell him that we have inside voices and the screaming is for out side..

    Answer by beach1103 at 10:44 PM on Aug. 3, 2008

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  • Spank him. My son did that and I spanked him when he did it(hit and scream). (I used small plastic paddle) He only did it a few times and stopped, and hasnt done it since.

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:11 AM on Aug. 4, 2008

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  • Omg my two year old does the same thing ! I am so fustratated by this behavior. I was in a bad relationship with the father so I believe this contributed to my toddler acting out with me because he would not act this way with his father. I also find myself yelling at him most of the time instead of getting down on his level and interacting with him calmly. I recognize this as a problem.One the first steps I took was leaving my child's father ( the abuser) and now I am able to raise him in a more suitable manner. he is improving and I will as well. good luck gurl


    Answer by yumymommy at 12:38 AM on Aug. 4, 2008

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  • no hitting or yelling cz it shows him that its normal so from now on i no it will be hard but just bend down to ur knees and talk nicely say no son i dont like that it is hurting me ect........and when he sees that u are always carm he will settle down but i could take 2-3 weeks mabe 4 and well his hitting is cause ur hitting or some1 is hitting him and he thinks its normal but he also wants your attention so that could also b y he is the way that he is so praise him all the time for anything good that he does :-)

    Answer by chocolate_27 at 10:03 AM on Aug. 4, 2008

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    Answer by SCOOKIH at 10:53 AM on Aug. 4, 2008

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  • When my son throws a fit, I grab his arm firmly & tell him "TIME OUT" and put him on the couch. I stay close to him & I tell him he has to sit there until he calms down.

    Answer by crazysocks830 at 12:57 PM on Aug. 4, 2008

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  • My two year old son is a momy's boy alot of the time.Now that my husband is back in school,to become a rn.his 4year old bother thows things at us we tried everything,he is meaner to his 2year old bother than he is to me and my husband,i want to put my 4 year old in school.

    Answer by mombear125 at 2:00 PM on Apr. 12, 2010

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  • my son also hits me and screams his head off and throws things at people when he doesn't get his way. i do my best to be calm and patient and i always explain that "that's not nice, that hurts, etc.." but sometimes i really lose it like when he jumped off the fourth step when i was telling him to stop playing at the stairs. and when he suddenly took off while we were at the hospital when he saw a friendly-looking stranger. i was in the restroom washing my hands and i wasn't able to stop him right away and i just freaked out. i yelled and i hit him and i felt so guilty after that and i kept telling him that i love him but i don't know what i'll do if it happens again in the future.

    Answer by angelibayani at 1:40 PM on Apr. 29, 2010

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  • I am going through the same thing with my 21 month old! I don't know what to do either.
    I have tried time outs, spanks, holding her hands explaining hitting is bad, hitting hurts, flat out saying no hitting.
    I've been calm and I've raised my voice even flat out yelled. I make her pick up what she throws but still...
    Today I finally wrapped a towel around her body to ensure I wasn't holding her to tight and let her tantrum it out. If I would of free'd her hands she would hit and she sometimes kicks. She finally calmed down and gave me a hug and kiss, she apoligized in her own way but it took almost 2 hours of tantrum and hitting!
    Someone help!

    Answer by DonnaPinitonya at 12:38 AM on Jul. 12, 2010

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