Have you ever been told that your tween should use deodorant?

Help! My nine-year old nephew was told by his homeroom teacher that he needed to start using deodorant. My sister and I are appalled. He's 9 for goodness sakes. Yes, he's a boy...but he's years away from hitting puberty. Are other moms/parents getting this kind advice? Soap and a shower sounds good enough to me.


Asked by Anonymous at 5:41 PM on Apr. 26, 2009 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • I don't have a kid that age yet, but does it really make a difference? I mean he probably smells if the teacher is noticing it... If the teacher was really mean about it, I might be upset, but if he just mentioned it, I would buy some deodorant.

    Answer by toriandgrace at 5:44 PM on Apr. 26, 2009

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  • Maybe he needs it. Some kids hormones kick in a little sooner. My son started to wear deodorant at age ten!

    Answer by Steff107 at 6:11 PM on Apr. 26, 2009

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  • Those hormones can start kicking in as young as 8. If he smell, he smells. Just be sure to get him something aluminum free, like Tom's of Maine or a mineral crystal.
    I hope that you have had ongoing conversations with him about his changing body, if not, please consider this to be a "teachable moment".

    Answer by rkoloms at 6:18 PM on Apr. 26, 2009

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  • My son just turned 9 last week and about a week before that he said another girl said he stinks. He told me " Mom I do stink" - so I bought him deoderant. Take the advice and buy the kid some deoderant. I got mine Axe and he thinks its soooo cool.

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:37 PM on Apr. 26, 2009

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  • It wasnt right for the teacher to say that and embarass him in that way. She should have sent a note home to you saying that she had noticed the problem and was concerned he was going to get negative comments from the other classmates and let you handle it and maybe if you didnt intervene speak to a counselor or something. As far as if he may need it he probaly does if people are noticing. The same thing happened to me the other day. My 8 yr old son was standing next to me and I noticed he had an odor not BO but not pleasant so I kinda made the decision to start encouraging him to wear deodrant and cologne. There is a little boy in his class that quite a few parents have commented that he smells bad at parties and stuff and I dont want that to happen to my little guy. It was kinda sad because it seems like just yesterday he was a little baby that smelled like baby powder and shampoo and now hes a big tough stinky man! LOL

    Answer by mom2gandr at 6:55 PM on Apr. 26, 2009

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  • Hate to tell you, some boys start puberty at 9 years old, if they stink they need deodarant. What is the big deal?

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 7:39 PM on Apr. 26, 2009

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  • My 9 year old son puts on deodorant sometimes. He will usually smell his "pit's" and tell me he smells and can he use the deodorant...Like he needs to ask...cuz if it is bad enough to gross him out it is bad  enough to make me pass out...lol



    Answer by lovmore at 9:26 PM on Apr. 26, 2009

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  • my son is eight and he uses it hun. it doesnt matter what age he is it matter that he stinks and people are noticing. get him some man gel and let that be it. hes just starting to smell no big deal


    Answer by Momof3Squirts at 10:08 PM on Apr. 26, 2009

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  • Oh yes my mom said my brother smelled so bad she couldn't stand it and she started them even younger before soccer etc

    Answer by littlemomma91 at 10:09 PM on Apr. 26, 2009

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  • Yes, its very appropriate. I have worked hard to get on the situation BEFORE I get a note about it. My girls are 11 and 14 and by 9, they both needed deodorant. Plus its a good habit to get in to. Its just embarassing that you didnt notice it. Its probably because he sweats while hes at school. Don't get him anything too fragrancy, just a plain ol scent. No axe crap. Hes just nine and he doesnt need to be smelling like hes going out on a date. He will knock his teacher out by the smell....LOL

    Answer by momofsaee at 8:10 AM on Apr. 27, 2009

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