How can you talk to a teen girl who is already having sex?

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debbgreen

Asked by debbgreen at 12:52 AM on Aug. 29, 2008 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • Like I commented earlier on a similar subject, he is an ADULT with a MINOR! It's called Statutory rape, even if the girl gives her consent. I would report it to the police and press charges. You aren't going to stop it any other way.
    goinginsane1

    Answer by goinginsane1 at 1:00 AM on Aug. 29, 2008

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  • i agree with the previous poster. Report him for statutory rape.
    AussieMum2

    Answer by AussieMum2 at 1:17 AM on Aug. 29, 2008

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  • Yup. Report his disgusting ass. What kind of grown man wants to hang out with a child? Thats sick. If you cant stop her, then you need to stop him
    CassandraLeeMN

    Answer by CassandraLeeMN at 2:07 AM on Aug. 29, 2008

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  • Now hold up ladies. I once was 14 with a 19 year old and I did the same thing. snuck out, lied to my mom and yes I was having sex. I agree that its something a 14 year old girl shouldnt do, but before you jump the gun, get to know this boy, see if hes a good man, see if they do love each other. In the meantime get her on birth control. I know its hard for a mother to let things like this happen, but My mother tryed that route and nearly broke my heart in two. I loved him and I still do. WE are married now with our third child on the way. He turned out to be a good and guy and loves me very much. Im not saying your situation is the same as my was, but before you go and screw someones life up, fine out if they are good people. Sometimes you cant help but be with the one you love, no matter what the age difference is.
    soonmommyof3

    Answer by soonmommyof3 at 2:21 AM on Aug. 29, 2008

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  • HMMM. No matter how "good" this guy may be, good guys know better than to have sex with a fourteen year old girl. She is NOT capable of making adult decisions, or dealing with the consequences of adult actions. I think you need to give the guy fair warning, then if he's still not willing to wait till she is eighteen (not likely), he needs to know how the law deals with adult men who decide to have sex with a minor child. She IS a minor ,still not responsible for herself, and still very much a child, no matter ow mature she may seem.
    Aprilmorgans

    Answer by Aprilmorgans at 3:31 AM on Aug. 29, 2008

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  • Should a nineteen year old be having sex with a fourteen year old? Of course not. But I personally don't agree with the statutory rape laws when dealing with teens close in age. I don't think it is right for a 19 year old to be dubbed a sex offender and face prison time for teenage hormones. You should really look at how you are raising your daughter. She is agreeing to this. I understand that she is not legally old enough to make adult decisions.....but she IS making these decisions. Really take a look at your relationship with her and what you have taught her. Her boyfriend needs to make his own decisions, and it looks like he isn't making the right ones. Deal with your daughter, not someone else's son.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 3:56 AM on Aug. 29, 2008

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  • OK LADIES LETS BE REAL.....YOU SHOULD REALLY TALK TO YOUR DAUGHTER YOU KNOW GET INSIDE HER HEAD AND SEE WHAT SHE LIKES IN THIS GUY,FOR HER TO BE SNEEKING OUT THAT'S NOT COOL YOU WANT YOUR DAUGHTER TO OPEN WITH YOU AND YOU WANT HER TO BE SAFE...IF SHE IS HAVING SEX IT'S REALLY NOTHING YOU CAN DO ABOUT IT BUT PUT HER ON SOME BIRTH CONTRLL AND TEACH HER TO ALWAYS HAVE SAFE SEX....AND TO HONEST WITH YOU AND MAYBE YOU SHOULD TALK TO THE BOY AND SEE WHAT'S UP WITH HIM...AND WHAT'S DOES HE SEE IN YOUR DAUGHTER....JUST BE OPEN WITH YOUR DAUGHTER AND BE REAL...BECAUSE WHEN YOU BE STRICT IT MAKES KIDS WANT TO DO IT MORE
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:10 AM on Aug. 29, 2008

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  • I would set down every calm with this boy and tell his to leave her alone or the cops will get called. That and maybe you should put her on birthcontrol or give her the sex talk. If she is going to do it she is going to do it. Better safe then sorry!!!
    Connersmom9956

    Answer by Connersmom9956 at 4:38 PM on Aug. 29, 2008

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  • call the police....get him thrown in jail......then personally i would put a woopin on her...but that parts all on you. the way i feel is if she thinks shes grown enough to be doing what shes doing, then she can handle a smack or in my case...more then just 1 smack. of course i dont mean actually beat her. but enough to get your point across. shes a little girl. she better do as YOU say... not the other way around!
    jayandtonysmom

    Answer by jayandtonysmom at 5:17 PM on Aug. 29, 2008

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  • U Shouldn't Get The Cops Involved Unless He Is Dangerous!U Need 2 Talk 2 Both Of Them And Just Explain Ur Feelings And Tell Them They Should At Least Respect U Enough 2 Have Safe Sex And Not Sneak Out!And Get Ur Daughter On Birth Control And Talk 2 Both Of Them About The Importance Of Safe Sex!Trust Me If U Try 2 Keep Them Apart U Will Make It Worse!She Will Just Try Harder 2 Be With Him And Thats When U Will Have Real Problems!
    ms.princess949

    Answer by ms.princess949 at 10:36 PM on Aug. 29, 2008

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