How do you discipline your child for having a smart mouth?

my 7yo DD is a mouthy little one--well should say was a mouth little one! she kept it up, even after time outs, loss of toys and priveldeges and a miriad of other punishments. My mother mentor told me try nasty tasting foods on her tongue, so we did lemon juice and other not so sweet things--turns out she liked them! So she said try tabasco--not hte extra hot, just old-fashioned regular tabasco. took one time(with a tip of a tooth pick) on her tongue, and she thinks--i mean really thinks-- before saying something hurtful to someone, or being mouthy with an adult. I told her, it stings your tongue , the way your words sting my heart, and those other peoples hearts who your mean to!--She is soo respectful and nice now. I know I hurt her for a few seconds, but, I had to get my point across!

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ms_mommy_sue

Asked by ms_mommy_sue at 12:19 PM on Jun. 25, 2008 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • Hi! All the answers above look like great ones. I am only weighing in to mention that until the age of 7, children are entirely imitative. The younger they are, the more this is true. If you are confronted with a behavior, take an objective look at what your child is witnessing. (I have seen a number of moms who are rude, high-handed and disrespectful to their children, barking orders, hustling them about, cutting short the child's words with a put-down or an irritated NO. I do not believe in pampering children, but treating a child as if he/she is a nuisance is just WRONG.Yet these adults who speak sharply to their kids, are angry that their children are disrespectful.)Daycare is another possibility, or TV.Unfortunately, mean behavior is shocking, so it makes a strong impression on a child.Cuss words, too, are intended to shock. Good manners are more than prudish rules .Well-mannered people create an atmosphere in which a child can relax his guard and be the sweet person he is.
    waldorfmom

    Answer by waldorfmom at 4:00 PM on Jun. 25, 2008

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  • We stick our kids' nose in the corner.
    ReneeK3

    Answer by ReneeK3 at 12:28 PM on Jun. 25, 2008

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  • I tried tobasco. One of my kids liked it! CRAZY! Now I too have a lil 7 y/o who thinks she's the Mom. GRRAH!
    SHELEBELLE

    Answer by SHELEBELLE at 12:30 PM on Jun. 25, 2008

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  • OMGosh! I was going to ask this SAME question. I have to say though (being a foster parent) giving your children tabasco in their mouth as a form of punishment is considered abuse in the eyes of DHS/Child Protective Services. I'm just putting that out there so please be careful. ;-)
    Anyway, I would love to find a way that would get my 6 year old daughter to STOP talking back and being disrespectful verbally. We are using the Magic 1-2-3 program and it works for the most part but man is she mouthy.
    Good luck ladies and WHEN you find something that works...let me know. :)
    brooklynsummer

    Answer by brooklynsummer at 1:26 PM on Jun. 25, 2008

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  • my mother mentor is a worker with DHS, so I am not worried about being in trouble! lol I aksed for her and got her. She comes out weekly and we do meetings and take the kids to their appointments and things like the park. I wanted help understanding my kids, and when you ask for help, they will give it to you, and not look down upon you!
    ms_mommy_sue

    Answer by ms_mommy_sue at 1:38 PM on Jun. 25, 2008

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  • i want some advise on how to deal with my mouthy son?
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    vbruno

    Answer by vbruno at 4:41 PM on Jun. 25, 2008

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  • MY DAUGHTERS ONLY 5 AND SHE TALKS LIKE A 40+YEAR OLD TRUCKER!! lol WHICH MAKES NO SENCE BECAUSE ME AND HER DAD TALK MORE CONSIDERATE AND ALL. SO YEA I DO THE SALSA THING TOO, FOR THE REALLY BAD REMARKS THAT COME OUT HER MOUTH. +COME ON WE ARE TALKING ABOUT A DROP ON THE TOUNGE NOT THE WHOLE BOTTLE ON THEIR TONGUES. ~MY MOM DID IT TO ME ONCE WHEN I WAS GROWING UP, AND IT TAUGHT ME NOT TO SPEAK THAT WAY TO PEOPLE. :) ~KAY
    KAYOCHOA

    Answer by KAYOCHOA at 2:51 PM on Jun. 27, 2008

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  • Honestly, when my son gets mouthy, I'll dip my finger in vinegar (apple cider) and swab his mouth with it. I tried tobasco, but the little booger liked it.. tried setting him in the corner, tried telling him it was a no-no to back talk, and in all seriousness.. the vinegar has worked the best, so far.
    catumai

    Answer by catumai at 10:08 PM on Jul. 4, 2008

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  • Love it! We do something similar but I like how you said it stings your tongue like it stings our hearts. Good point.
    SFerber

    Answer by SFerber at 11:38 PM on Feb. 26, 2010

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