Is it necessary to send my child to preschool at 3 years old?

I work a split shift and have off in the morning with my children ages 1 and 3. I am struggling on whether or not to send my 3 year old to preschool and if I do, how many days she should go. This would mean that I would not see her at all on the days she attends preschool. I will enroll my child in 4 year old preschool but is 3 year old preschool really necessary? Have any other moms not sent their children to 3 year old preschool?


Asked by jen_0898 at 12:15 AM on Sep. 20, 2008 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • I have been a preschool teacher for quite some time. For 3yr olds, it really isn't necessary. You are her most important teacher and she can learn so much from you at home. You're her role model and she will observe you and learn a whole lot. Not every child's ready for a formal education at this age. Many 3 year olds just don't have the attention span. Some do. If yours does, you could always do what I do with my 3 year old. I bought her thick crayons, a pencil, papers, flashcards, and even a notebook so that she'd get excited, and I dedicate time every other day to teaching her how to write, color, and count. She is excited about learning. I incorporate it into her play and even at meal times.. f/e let's make a fruit salad. Look mommy put in yellow bananas. I cut them into circle pieces etc. You can never get these precious moments back. In my opinion, she's better off with you for now. Good luck and God bless.

    Answer by MelodyLG at 12:57 AM on Sep. 20, 2008

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  • I agree it's not necessary but by the time she does start school there are things you want her to know, like how to recognise her name. Let me suggest you go get the video "letter factory" by leap frog. It will make you feel better. Your daughter will know her letters and sounds in a week.

    Answer by Mrs.Faith at 1:25 AM on Sep. 20, 2008

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  • i sent my daughter at 3, she went every tuesday and thursday from 9-1130am..i didnt do it for the learning aspect tho, i wanted her to go to a single mom and shes an only child, and i really have no friends with kids that she can go and play with..other than taking her to the park she really never had any socializing...did she learn much at preschool?? no, not really..but she had a blast, and all summer long all i heard was "mommy i wanna go to preschool" this year she goes 3 days a week, but she wishes it could be everyday!!

    Answer by alexis_06 at 2:39 AM on Sep. 20, 2008

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  • I agree it is not necessary. I also agree with the first mom . You are the best teacher and you also don't want to loose this special time with her. It goes too fast. I do think that the social part is good but if she has other friends to play with or you take her to parks and she can play with other children that would be good.

    Answer by sgf1 at 2:43 AM on Sep. 20, 2008

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  • My son did not go to 3y/o preschool DD is going to go to Tuesday School at a church this yr (she is 3) but its only a couple hrs 1 day a wk.

    Answer by mscamp0235 at 9:29 AM on Sep. 20, 2008

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  • I have a set of 3 yr old twins I just started in preschool. They go everyday from 11":10 to 4:10, now that includes the bus ride. At this point I am still unsure if it is a good thing at 3. They do not like going and seem to be afraid of the bus and something else, but once they leave and are in school they seem to be fine, they are learning and i AM NOT SURE IF IT IS SERPERATION ANXIETY. Socializing and being in a different enviornment other than at home was why I sent them and to give me mommy time, but now I am not sure if it is the right thing. I am going to try it for a few more weeks to see if they adjust. If they dont I think I might pull them and try again next year. They just turned 3 in July

    Answer by angeleyes31376 at 12:10 PM on Sep. 20, 2008

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  • My son is almost 4 and he isn't in preschool and I have taught him so much already! I got preschool books from walmart and kmart and we work on them, I get him puzzles and he is already putting together the 63 peice sets. He is now just starting to have a desire in reading words. He can pick out the letters of his name on the key board. I'm just pointing out that you don't need to pay someone to teach what you can do yourself for almost nothing. I feel preschool is good to learn social skills and how to play nice etc...

    Answer by wheresthewayout at 4:14 PM on Sep. 20, 2008

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  • Well, I would say it's not necessary. I don't plan on sending my son until he is 4. I figure he will be in school for so many years of his life and he should have as much time as he can to be a kid. I still will be working with him at home, reading and teaching him things on my own... but he doesn't need preschool at 3.

    Answer by MaMaT5905 at 6:01 PM on Sep. 20, 2008

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  • your home in the mornings I think it's wonderful that you can spend precious time with your children. I do not feel preschool is necessary, make sure your child has play dates with other children, go to the park, go to the library for story time, read stories to your child, practice coloring, shapes, ABC's. My daughters went to preschool and did great. Now in high school. I have 4 year old twins who are not in preschool. I do take my boys to play dates, signed them up for a sports I am also in a MOPS program where my twins are left for three hours once a week with child care while I am down stairs participating with my MOPS activities. They are in speech half an hour once a week. I have purchased them workbook, I am always reading, singing, playing, doing arts and crafts with them. I really believe they are going to be ready and just fine when it's time to start kindergarten. 

    Answer by mommiedear at 11:06 PM on Sep. 20, 2008

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  • my dd has an issue when it comes to learning stuff. she will not listen to me, or she will, but 5 minutes later shes done and doesnt want to do it anymore so i send mine, and she is doing wonderfull, also it is nice for her to play with kids her own age, as i do not know many mothers where i live with kids my dd's age.

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:05 AM on Sep. 21, 2008

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