Should I give my baby up for adoption?

hey im 16 years old and i live with my bf me and him are so happy about out little baby boy but my family says that hes going to leave me and that my baby will suffer and that ill never be able to take good care of him but my heart tells me other wise i love him so much already and i havent even seen him yet were all prepared to have him but my family disagrees i worry that if i keep him he will never know my side of the family and that they will reject him what do you think i should do please help im so lost my bf refuses to adopt what should i do!!!!!!

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EzekielJR.

Asked by EzekielJR. at 9:27 PM on Jun. 27, 2008 in Adoption

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  • I think you should pray on it God will help you. call Birthright they can help you make the right decsion and it is free and confriedenial 1-800-550-4900 God Bless
    ISAIAHMOM632007

    Answer by ISAIAHMOM632007 at 9:30 PM on Jun. 27, 2008

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  • I think you should pray on it God will help you. call Birthright they can help you make the right decsion and it is free and confriedenial 1-800-550-4900 God Bless
    ISAIAHMOM632007

    Answer by ISAIAHMOM632007 at 9:30 PM on Jun. 27, 2008

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  • Don't let anyone else make that decision for you. You need to have peace in your heart over whatever decision you make. If you don't want to give up the baby, then he is yours to keep! Just be the best mommy you can be!
    ReneeK3

    Answer by ReneeK3 at 9:32 PM on Jun. 27, 2008

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  • I think you will regret giving your baby away. It sounds like you both love the baby. Having a baby is difficult at any age, really. I pray that you can keep the baby and raise the baby well. Best of luck to you sweetie.
    unga

    Answer by unga at 9:35 PM on Jun. 27, 2008

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  • Lets think about the well being of yourself and your future child. What are you willing to do to keep the child. Thinking of just you and the child. Put it in your head now that you can never depend on anyone but yourself. Right there you have one person on your side, thats YOU! Now Being 16 on your own get this theres plenty of programs for you from the state to help you. Your family will eventually come around and if they dont well remember you still have you. Adoption may be a good idea but youre already on your own are you contributing. Going through the adoption process is probably harder than keeping the child. Im not saying your bf is a dead beat dad but like i said keep in mind that you cant depend on anyone if you think you can do that then you will be fine. Besides think about all the ladies that have children at 16 and they not only have one but 2. Good luck if you need to talk message me.
    GoldieLocks18

    Answer by GoldieLocks18 at 9:37 PM on Jun. 27, 2008

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  • This is YOUR baby no matter what age you are, if you feel in your heart that it is wrong to give this baby up, then don't give him up. He is your little guy, don't let someone treat you otherwise. It might be hard but who ever think life is easy must never had a big decision to make for themselves.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:45 PM on Jun. 27, 2008

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  • I agree with the anonymous post! it's YOUR choice NOONE elses! I understand you want some advice and opinions that's why you posted it here, but in the end final deceision it's all yours sweetie! but i would advise you to call a number or visit a health clinic to speak with someone. good luck!
    Sarah
    1boy1girl4me

    Answer by 1boy1girl4me at 10:11 PM on Jun. 27, 2008

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  • i agree its no ones choice but yours that baby loves you your giving it life i think the babies choose the mothers either to carry them or to guide them on there way of your life...just dont do something you will regreat some people do have a nother chance to have a child because of an accident or something.. Dont give up something that you love because its hard...ITS WORTH it that babys yours no one can take that child away but you if you want to do what you think is best
    Patience1

    Answer by Patience1 at 10:19 PM on Jun. 27, 2008

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  • If YOU want to keep the baby, keep him. Adoption is a great choice for women who don't want their pregnancies but also don't choose early abortion, but if you want the baby and are confident you can give him a good life, keep him. You would face so many regrets if you didn't. Good luck!!!
    Mantidae

    Answer by Mantidae at 10:25 PM on Jun. 27, 2008

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  • It is your choice and your's alone. Some really young mothers do get an education and job skills and end up being able to give their kids everything they need and want. Unfortunately, most of them end up living on the fringe of really poor with kids who have to go through life with next to nothing. Watching all the other kids in school get I-pods and designer cloths and everything they want, while they struggle through life with a mom who cant provide enough for them. I hope your the former and not the latter. Do what your heart tells you is right. If it was me at your age? I would give the baby up to people who could give it every chance at a good life. No child should have to grow up poor. That's just my opinion. Do what your heart says is right for you.
    vbruno

    Answer by vbruno at 10:26 PM on Jun. 27, 2008

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