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Is it OK to look at your kids' text messages and photos on their cell phone?

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Asked by Anonymous at 6:37 AM on Jun. 28, 2008 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • I would say yes. But my question is why does an 11 year old have a cell phone with those features?? it is harder to block things on phones than the internet. a kid that age only needs to call and be called. texting is popular though. take it off or trust your child
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:57 AM on Jun. 28, 2008

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  • 11 is too young to have a cell phone but i would definatey monitor all activity! belive me kids are doing things younger and younger these days!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:10 AM on Jun. 28, 2008

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  • It's okay to look at messages and pics on any child's cell phone, no matter what the age! Monitoring a device that you pay for that gives the outside world access to your child is just good parenting!
    Buttersmom

    Answer by Buttersmom at 10:02 AM on Jun. 28, 2008

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  • Honey, Your child is 11 years old... Its okay to turn their room upside down looking at things. Until your child turns 18 and moves out of your house you have the responsibility to make sure the things they have and are doing is appropriate.
    sweetsone

    Answer by sweetsone at 10:54 AM on Jun. 28, 2008

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  • I think its perfectley alright epecially at 11. Kids are getting sneakier and sneakier and even "good"kids can be falling into bad habits. Personally my generation survived quite well with pre paid phone cards and a cell phone at 11 is just a recipe for disaster.
    LilHellion

    Answer by LilHellion at 10:55 AM on Jun. 28, 2008

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  • what would an 11 year possibly need a cell phone for I mean I honestly would like to know you have to drive them to everywhere right? I mean shouldn't they be with a responsible adult at all times at this age?
    TheEyesDesire

    Answer by TheEyesDesire at 12:55 PM on Jun. 28, 2008

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  • The safety and security of a cell phone are amazing. Also the tracking aspect is handy for pre-teens and teens alike. As a parent we are responsible for our children not just in an emotional way but legal also. At age 11 it is not their phone or their room. You are letting them use it. While trust is a concern, is it not better to have an open relationship even if it is forced on your side? A child is not always rational or may dismiss something illeagal as experimantation or a prank. There are so many issues; vandilism, sex, drugs. Being aware of their intrest or introduction can be half the battle.
    h3art2h0m3

    Answer by h3art2h0m3 at 2:25 PM on Jun. 28, 2008

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  • If it is your 11 year old ABSOLUTELY!!!!!! A lot of kids get into trouble because they are not being watched more closely and that can become very dangerous. Some kids can access the internet from their cell phones and it can cause lots of problems. There are too many sick people who can do bad things to kids. Besides it gives you some insight as to what kids are doing when you are not around. I had lots of pics of my friends doing stupid things on my cell and if I had found them on my kids' cells I would freak out on them. It is best to keep up with what is going on....especially if you pay for the service.
    HeatherTurner

    Answer by HeatherTurner at 2:42 PM on Jun. 28, 2008

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  • Of course. My son is almost 13 and if he wants an email account, myspace, or IM I have to have all of his passwords. I will go on and check everything too. I have him use my emails to sign up for things so that I get the messages, too. If you are paying for that cell phone...isn't it technicaly yours? If not, you still have the authority to see what is on it as long as the child is living in your home.
    boyerbaby

    Answer by boyerbaby at 3:04 PM on Jun. 28, 2008

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  • Heck yeah!! Look at all of them when ever you get the chance. All of this nasty stuff going on in this world. It's better to be safe then sorry. But don't let them know.
    strozilove

    Answer by strozilove at 10:56 PM on Jun. 28, 2008

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