What should I do if my 5-year-old wets the bed?

My DD is barely 5. She still has accidents at night. She's been potty trained completely since she was like 2. She used to never have accidents and she'd even get out of bed to go pee. Now for the last year or so she has an accident 4-5 nights a week... even if we don't give her anything to drink before bedtime. What's a mom to do?


Asked by amandae21 at 6:05 PM on Oct. 1, 2008 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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  • Talk to her. Has something changed? A new house, a new baby, a new relationship, someone else move or pass away? I am betting a change in circumstances has her scared or uncomfortable.

    Answer by Mom1Stepmom1 at 7:04 PM on Oct. 1, 2008

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  • pullups but i would talk to the dr since she wasn't doing it and now is. but my son is 5 and was potty trained when he turned 2 but he still has to wear pull ups at night

    Answer by mommymeg03 at 8:46 PM on Oct. 1, 2008

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  • When my son was having trouble with bed wetting. What I did was no beverage after 7 & had him go to the bathroom before bed & then when I went to bed I got him up again to go. This seemed to work because he was such a sound sleeper. Then gradually he was able to get up himself. if he had to go the the bathroom.


    Answer by Tinkerbell3396 at 11:08 PM on Oct. 1, 2008

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  • Is she at a safe and recommended by the FDA age that she could talk a medication that could help her not to have accidents at night?

    Answer by twinmom1971 at 11:26 PM on Oct. 1, 2008

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  • I would make sure she uses the bathroom before bed...maybe even wake her up to use it again, (I know it sucks)...Like the other mom's said, make sure she is okay and not having any problems with anything. And last resort, you could talk to your pediatrician.

    Answer by raybell at 12:44 AM on Oct. 2, 2008

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  • In my opinion I would try talking to her. See how much she is going during the day and see if it hurts when she goes. Some kids grow faster then their bladders so they are more likely to have accidents. It usually is a pattern were they have them for a couple months, then they stop and then start up again.

    I would not put pull ups on her. You don't want her to feel like she is being treated like a baby for something she can not control. I know with my son I talked to his DR and he ended up having to have surgery because the opening at the tip of his penis was not wide enough.

    Good Luck

    Answer by cornflakegirl3 at 8:36 AM on Oct. 2, 2008

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  • This can be brought on by a growth spurt. It also is something that happens to children (and adults) who sleepwalk. I bought mine Nicky's (or Nicki's) bedwetter pants for $5 a pair on ebay. They are washable and have a good fit so that they aren't concerned about soaking the bed, but they aren't in "diapers" either. To find out if she has the "sleepwalking" version of this you can ask her if she remembers dreaming anything before she wets. The dream is always the same from every person I've ever heard tell it. They dream that they go into the bathroom, pull down their clothing, sit on the toilet, and then begin to pee - only the beginning to pee part is really happening. It seems so vivid and real they have no reason to wake up until they feel the wetness. They really believe they are in the bathroom. Ask me how I know. :-)

    Answer by GrowingMama at 12:52 AM on Oct. 3, 2008

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  • I have been dealing with bedwetting for a very long time. Its normally a genetic condition that comes from a combo of parents being bedwetters and also an immature bladder thats small. My oldest wet until she was 11. We tried everything until we finally did meds for her. They worked well and her self esteem was beginning to suffer. My son is now 7 and still wets every night. It really doesn't matter how much he drinks, hes still going to wet. He wears goodnights and I know he will outgrow this. Its just a matter of when. Don't make an issue out of it and there are things you can do like alarms or getting her up before you go the route of meds. They can't help it so don'e be to hard on her and it has nothing to do with potty training.

    Answer by momofsaee at 11:50 AM on Oct. 3, 2008

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  • My daughter also potty-trained at 2 1/2, but not for nighttime. I read an article around that time, saying they are ready to go in panties at night when they wake up dry most mornings. I waited and waited... and waited for this! At age 5, she was still in pull-ups at night, and a professor of early childhood development assured me this is fine. My daughter is a very heavy sleeper! After considering buying a bed-wetting alarm to awaken her, I decided to just wait a bit more. At 5 1/2 she began going all night without wetting. When her pull-up was dry most mornings, we switched to underpants. She had a few accidents, but we just said "oops, these things happen. Here are some clean sheets." She just had to grow big enough for her bladder to hold it all night. She still rarely gets up during the night, but at age 8, she is dry 99% of the time.

    Now we are waiting on my 5 year-old son...

    Answer by yarnjunkie at 12:26 PM on Oct. 3, 2008

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  • Make sure there is no changes going on...new baby...new house ect. No caffiene I found that if mine had caffiene type drinks (soda, tea) after dinner hours they would wet. She is still young. SOmetimes they sleep so sound they just don't wake up to go. Make her go just before putting her to bed....maybe even try walking her to the potty in middle of night....til she gets her own habit formed. IF it continues maybe mention to your pediatrician.....Try the good nights too...atleast hten your not doing linens every day...Good luck.

    Answer by Deb128 at 10:46 AM on Oct. 6, 2008

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