Can you teach an 11-month-old to share?

ok so my daughter is 11 months and when ever there is other kids at our house and they touch her toy she screams and cries!!! and then wants that toy too and the one she has! i knew this would happen but is it too soon? and what should i do? i dont want a braty kid!!

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k-low21

Asked by k-low21 at 12:17 AM on Oct. 3, 2008 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • Child training addresses issues like this. You may want to look into it. There's a group on CM if you'd like to check it out.
    GrowingMama

    Answer by GrowingMama at 12:21 AM on Oct. 3, 2008

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  • well if she is an only child its very normal my oldest did this around that again its something they feel they have control over, but if you dont correct it now it will just get worse
    mommie2twogirls

    Answer by mommie2twogirls at 12:30 AM on Oct. 3, 2008

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  • At 11 months, she really isn't developmentally ready to "share" toys or to do cooperative play. If it's hers and she knows that it's hers, of course she's upset that other children have it. She doesn't know what they are going to do with it or if they'll give it back.
    KaroGreenly

    Answer by KaroGreenly at 12:44 AM on Oct. 3, 2008

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  • At this age, like the above poster said,she isn't capable of sharing. Basically, slowly introducing her to the concept will work in the long run, and for short term, basically we are all screwed with this age and the only thing that you can do is distract, distract, distract. Always keeping a toddler busy..... whew!!
    workathome01

    Answer by workathome01 at 1:56 AM on Oct. 3, 2008

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  • That's not brattiness. That's normal. Children this age are the center of their own universe naturally, and she's doing exactly what's expected. She's too young to understand the concept of sharing. Give it quite a few more months.
    gdiamante

    Answer by gdiamante at 10:46 PM on Oct. 5, 2008

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