Should I tell my 3-year-old that her puppy died?

Our puppy Wendy died a couple of nights ago from parvo. Obviously she knew Wendy was sick, she went to the vet with us, and saw us giving Wendy her medicines. When she woke up in the morning after Wendy passed, we told dd the puppy was with the puppy doctor. She keeps expecting Wendy to come home. Should we just let her know Wendy died? We have explained to her in the past about people dying, and going to Heaven, so do we just explain to her about her puppy dying?


Asked by LolosMom at 1:45 PM on Oct. 3, 2008 in Pets

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  • yes...or she' may have issues with pets going to the vet... she'll start to think if they go there they'll never come home.....especially if you decided to get a new pet (or if you have other pets) {That's my opinion}

    If your dog was sick, then you just need to tell her that she was so sick that the vet wasn't able to help the doggy. Sometimes even though we want to we can't make people/animals better....sometimes they are so, so, very sick that they just die....

    Anything along those lines will do.....

    Answer by SAHMinIL at 1:49 PM on Oct. 3, 2008

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  • Oh that is so sad if my daughters dog died I think it would be to emotional for me to even tell her I would probably buy her a new one and tell her that god needed her puppy up in heaven with him and he sent her a new puppy for her.

    Answer by Heaven0802 at 1:52 PM on Oct. 3, 2008

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  • My mom always told me she gave the puppy away to a little girl that needed it more.

    Of course, that always made me feel horrible...but I got over it eventually.

    I'm not saying you should use that tactic, but I'm just sayin =]

    Answer by caitxrawks at 1:54 PM on Oct. 3, 2008

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  • We have had to put down two dogs in the past year. You must be honest with kids, death is a part of life. We told my daughter our dogs were sick and God needed them in heaven to make them feel better. She still asks about them and I know shes still confused but I would always choose honesty over silence. I hope this helps....good luck

    Answer by ceciandrew at 1:55 PM on Oct. 3, 2008

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  • be honest

    Answer by aMbeR012005 at 1:59 PM on Oct. 3, 2008

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  • Getting a new puppy isn't an option right now. Parvo virus isn't one that is killed easily, and our yard would be infected from the feces of our puppy. The vet told us that it is nearly impossible to kill in organic material. We just don't want to break her little heart. I guess either way, it is going to. She keeps expecting her to come home from the vet's, and is going to be disappointed when she doesn't. Thanks for the advice ladies.

    Answer by LolosMom at 2:03 PM on Oct. 3, 2008

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  • My older dog just recently passed also. He had cancer and we didn't have the money to give him treatments and such with having 3 young children. My 3 yr old took it better than I thought he would. We've always told them that God made you and he gave you to us as a gift and that as long as you listen to your heart and obey God you will go to heaven with him. When our dog passed I took them aside and told them that he was real sick and God thought it best that he go to heaven with him and one day we will be able to see him again. He just looked and me and took his little hands and put them on my face and told me "it's okay mommy, God will take care of him now" Now he tells everyone that his dog went to heaven to be with Jesus. Eventually we got another dog and the thought has ventured from his little head.

    Answer by mom3cutieboyz at 12:34 PM on Oct. 5, 2008

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  • I told our son that our dog went bye bye and is taking care of her bush.(she used to sleep under the bush in the back yard and it was her shade during the summer) (we buried her under it)
    where my husband
    told him, Roxie is dead. She is gone. (and at the same time he is trying not to cry)

    so now he is a little bit older, and he says Roxie dead. Gone bye bye. She under her bush now. and he doesn't seem to be phased like we thought he would be. Now if my in Law's dog dies there will be major problems I think. Can't not part them from each other. The dog is my walking wet wipe lol.

    Answer by Midnightduck515 at 1:17 AM on Oct. 13, 2008

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