Would you buy condoms for your teenager?

If your 16 year old came to you and said I think Im ready to have sex, would you buy me condoms so I can do it safely, would you buy them?

My thinking is that it is better to buy them than to just tell them no, you are not having sex until you are 18. They are going to do it regardless and most likely without protection if they are unable to get it. I'd rather help them to be safe than sorry. What are you thoughts?

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Asked by Anonymous at 1:03 AM on Oct. 7, 2008 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • UM HELLO, there is no age requirment to buy condoms. I would give them 10 dollars, take them to the store, and have them buy them. If they are too embarrassed or shy to do that. They are not old enough to have sex, and they need a good talk to change their mind.
    cloud144

    Answer by cloud144 at 3:04 AM on Oct. 7, 2008

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  • I agree, I'd feel strange buying them for my child but your right their going to do it regardless.
    Tams_jade

    Answer by Tams_jade at 1:06 AM on Oct. 7, 2008

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  • I'd have a long talk and try to get them to change their mind, but if they are set in their decision then I would buy them the condoms. You're right, they're going to do it whether you get them condoms or not. Just one way they will be protected, and the other way they may be coming home to tell you their pregnant instead of asking for condoms
    Galikian

    Answer by Galikian at 1:08 AM on Oct. 7, 2008

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  • Well I would probably buy it for them. I mean hell they are going to do it whether you like it or not. I think he should be able to buy his own condoms but wouldn't hurt for you do it I guess. Just because you buy them or he buys them doesn't mean he will use them for sure. You should just let him know the consequences of his actions. Like pregnancy and STD's. I would try and help him be safe though. Good luck!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:09 AM on Oct. 7, 2008

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  • I was already on birth control to regulate my period when I first had sex, so my mom expected me or my ex-boyfriend to buy the condoms. We only had sex like three times during our entire relationship, though, so we only bought one box LOL!
    caitxrawks

    Answer by caitxrawks at 1:09 AM on Oct. 7, 2008

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  • I would, but I would rather them get on some sort of birth control first and also have condoms. I would also want them to be in a commited relationship first. Sex is a very very important thing and it should not be played around with. You can have a lot of regrets so yeah.
    genuinely_real

    Answer by genuinely_real at 1:12 AM on Oct. 7, 2008

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  • I wouldn't want to buy my boys comdums (essepcially since they are still 2 yrs and 7 months hard to see them at 16 just yet lol) but I know I would go over all the ways to stay safe and what isn't safe. (ie. they were both concieved on birthcontrol lol) I do want them to be safe but there would be NEW rules in the house :) I would also talk to them about going to planned parenthood and getting their own comdums for no cost so they wouldn't have to go with mom or dad and feel imbarressed and I would know less lol :) That just me and my oppion :)
    Leauna
    Leauna

    Answer by Leauna at 1:15 AM on Oct. 7, 2008

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  • yes
    Patience1

    Answer by Patience1 at 2:50 AM on Oct. 7, 2008

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  • I would TAKE them to buy condoms, on the argument that if you are mature enough to have sex, you should be mature enough to take responsibility for your own reproductive health. Also, I would sit down with them and the computer and show them the stats on STD's, and how you can't always tell by looking that someone has one (as well as pictures of what STD's can look like / do to you when fully blown).

    I would also push them to use multiple forms of bc, because the 99% effective on condoms means the ones that leave the factory without defect. I believe it's something like 11% more leave with some sort of defect, so they're really only about a "B" average effectiveness.



    sailorwifenmom

    Answer by sailorwifenmom at 5:30 AM on Oct. 7, 2008

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  • Also, I teach my teens that they should wait until they're adults to have sex, for the moral, social, emotional, financial, physical (health wise) and etc reasons. But, I also teach them that IF they are going to be stupid enough to have sex as a teen, then they shouldn't compound one stupid mistake with another by having unprotected sex.
    sailorwifenmom

    Answer by sailorwifenmom at 5:32 AM on Oct. 7, 2008

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