Should I let my 9-year-old daughter shave her legs?

Not sure what to do??? My daughter is almost 9 yrs. She has really extremely hairy legs.(looks like shggy) I feel really bad for her She dance's and cheerleads along with doing other activities. I really don't want her to start shving her leggs so young. She has come to me repeadly asking to saying that others kids talk about the hair on her leggs and long it is. I thought about maybe getting a hair remover like veet or nair or something to help her situation. I don't want her to stop doing things because of being embarressed. What can do? Deperately seeking any and all advise. Please Help and Thank you.


Asked by Anonymous at 9:14 PM on Oct. 7, 2008 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • Maybe try putting some Sun-In on them so they turn a lighter color? From what I know, this stuff is pretty safe!


    Answer by anestheticsex at 9:18 PM on Oct. 7, 2008

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  • Veet has a lot of chemicals..I dunno if the stuff will react well to her skin either...

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:25 PM on Oct. 7, 2008

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  • I HAD to start shaving my legs at ten years old because I had horrible ugly long hair on my legs. It only caused me embarrassment and emotional pain because my parents wouldn't let me shave my legs. I eventually had to steal my mom's razor and shave them myself. I think you should let her start shaving them now...Veet and Nair have a lot of really harsh chemicals in them, like the previous poster said. She'll have to start eventually, won't she?

    Answer by caitxrawks at 9:32 PM on Oct. 7, 2008

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  • I would say not to stop her from shaving her legs. Extended growth of body hair can be a sign of puberty and if that's what it is. You really can't stop it. My mom told me I couldn't shave my legs until I had my first period. I didn't get it until the 8th grade. I was so embarrassed, I was always being made fun of.. And being a girl named Jo (short for Joey, which is just Joey, not short for anything else), just made it so much worse. Because of what I went through, she let my sister start doing it when the hair became noticeable to other people. The average girl in the US is at earliest 8 yr old and at oldest 16 at the onset of puberty, which from my understanding can be several years BEFORE the onset of menstruation. Here's an article I found. It mentions that the darkening of leg hair can be a sign of puberty. Good Luck Hun. Your girl needs you.

    Answer by RainShadow at 9:59 PM on Oct. 7, 2008

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  • Thank you so much RainShadow for your help I'm about in tears. She's my !st born and I know she has all signs of early puberty. more than just the hair on leggs. I don't remember these things at this early age. Not sure what to do or say if it s to early for certain talks that comes along w/ the changes a girl goes through. Again thank you also for the link. In tears.

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:44 PM on Oct. 7, 2008

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  • Unfortunately, I don't have any daughters but if it were me, I would allow her to shave. Especially if it's as bad as you said.

    Answer by BrendaMomOf3 at 1:26 AM on Oct. 8, 2008

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  • My daughter will be 11 in a few weeks and we have been using nair and veet on her legs for a little over a year. We had the same problem and I didn't want her to be picked on like I was as a child for this (wasn't allowed to shave till I was 14!) We both have really dark hair so the legs are very noticable...I got some Nair first and it worked good enough but veet is soo much better, it works faster and seems to last longer. You can just test a little spot on her leg to make sure she dosen't have a reaction to it before using it on her whole leg. She is also showing signs of new things to come early on...we haven't started yet but she has to wear bras all the time now and even got one underarm hair which she pulled! Hang in there I know it's hard but you'll make it thru this.

    Answer by INDIANAMOM at 6:55 AM on Oct. 8, 2008

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  • My SEVEN year old shaved her legs the other day (without my knowledge). She was embarrassed about the hair on her legs. Thank God she didn't cut herself. I told her I understood, but maybe let me know next time...

    Answer by heathermarie32 at 7:15 AM on Oct. 8, 2008

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  • My 10 yr old has really hairy legs, but the hair is blonde. We are giving her an elecric razor for Christmas. I would let your daughter shave her legs if only to keep from getting teased or bullied. Last thing she needs at her tender young age is to be ostrracized by her peers for her hairy legs. More serious things are to come.

    Answer by plclemo at 7:24 AM on Oct. 8, 2008

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  • You know in some cultures,, women don't shave their legs,,but in ours women do..So I would say buy her an electric shaver and let her shave legs..You know how kids are they wont leave her alone tell she shaves.

    Answer by louise2 at 9:51 AM on Oct. 8, 2008

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