Should I let my teen visit a college campus alone?

My son wants to visit a school by himself. He gets two 1 day passes from school to go visit a college and he wants to visit one of the two that he's shown interest in. He visited the other with a group during school. The school is an hour away and he has a good friend there who is a Freshman this year. He says he wants to "go see it himself 1st and take me back with him later if he likes it". If I let him go, he'll leave at 12p on Friday, take the tour and then spend the night in the dorm with his friend and come home Saturday morning. BTW ~ he and I have known this young man for 4 years. He's a good kid. I have mixed emotions about him going. I don't know if I'm apprehensive about it because I don't want to let my baby grow up : ) or because I'm worried about FRIDAY night at a college or both. What do you ladies think? He is my oldest so this is all new to me.

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happy2bme7

Asked by happy2bme7 at 10:25 PM on Oct. 8, 2008 in Teens (13-17)

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  • You sound like a good mom, and you say he's a good kid. Trust him. It's time to let your baby fly on his own. Just let him know you'll always be there if he falters.
    WD40

    Answer by WD40 at 12:05 AM on Oct. 9, 2008

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  • let him go by himself. he needs to make his own decisions. let him grow up!!!!!
    babye113

    Answer by babye113 at 10:27 PM on Oct. 8, 2008

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  • I would let him go. He's going to go next year anyway. Has he given you reason not to trust him? If not, let him go. If he has, then maybe not.
    toriandgrace

    Answer by toriandgrace at 10:29 PM on Oct. 8, 2008

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  • awww let him go Mom, ultimately it is his decision on whether he likes it there or not. He will be going there by himself so why not let him take the night away by himself now. Understandable that you don't want your baby to grow up, but at some point you will have to let him grow his own wings!
    Married2theBest

    Answer by Married2theBest at 10:32 PM on Oct. 8, 2008

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  • i agree. he'll be away next year anyway. it's only an hour away. it is soooo hard to let go.
    randi159

    Answer by randi159 at 10:45 PM on Oct. 8, 2008

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  • He's a great kid with a good head on his shoulders and has never given me reason to not trust him. Thank you for your answers...I feel much better about my decision to let him go. However, I'll be waiting by the door for him when he gets back......bitting my nails probably ....lol Oh...it's so hard to let them grown up.
    happy2bme7

    Answer by happy2bme7 at 10:51 PM on Oct. 8, 2008

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  • I THINKYOUR NERVOUSE ABOUT FRIDAY NITE PARTYYYYYYYY!!!! LET HIM GO AND ALL YOU CAN DO IS PRAY THAT HE WILL MAKE GOOD DECISIONS WHEN HE IS AWAY FROM HOME!!
    belladmom

    Answer by belladmom at 11:39 PM on Oct. 8, 2008

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  • yeah! If you dont trust him to tour for a day how are you going to cut the umbilical cord and let him go off to college by himself?!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:16 AM on Oct. 9, 2008

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  • Let him go!!
    mama_k228

    Answer by mama_k228 at 9:37 AM on Oct. 9, 2008

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  • if he's 18 I don't see where a parent's permission is warranted
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 10:48 AM on Oct. 9, 2008

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