My husband got custody of his four young kids when he divorced - his ex didn't really want the kids. The littlest ones were still in diapers when he and I met, and we've been together for eight years. The kids spend well over 300 days a year at our house.
The kids' absentee mom criticizes everything I do, but won't even visit her kids unless we drive them to her mother's house 3 hours away. I am sure in her own way she loves them, but... she spends so much time criticizing me that she doesn't spend any time loving her kids - she's so focused on trying to turn them against me.
Is she just bitter that she chose a life different than mine? Is she jealous that I love the kids so much I gave up a really good career to raise them? How can I keep the peace? I've tried being nice to her, but she continues to talk trash about me to the kids when she sees them.
Asked by Anonymous at 7:13 PM on Oct. 10, 2008 in Relationships
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"The kids will know who was there for them in the end."
I totally agree!!!
My ss has been living with us for 3 years now and tells everyone that he finally has a home and someone that really loves and cares for him. Being a step mom is truly overwhelming sometimes but there are rewards too! I know that I am the one that is seeing to his needs now and his bio-mom never did; now he doesn't want to talk to her on the phone or even visit her he says all she does is lie to him ......
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