How do I talk to my 10-year-old son about puberty?

my 10 yr old is staring to find body hair and his genitals are starting to get hairy and i need help discussing the subject with him


Asked by flaminhot at 11:04 AM on Jul. 1, 2008 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • Opportunity is always a plus and makes it easier to know when they are receptive to listening to what we have to say. Listen to them when they watch movies or sports or other events where they see people with strong bodies. Listen for that opportunity. I used to listen for "I wish I could run that fast" or "I wish I had muscles like that". It's a great time to explain to them how their body will change when the hormones set in. It's easier for some kids to start with the idea of their muscles getting stronger when introducing testosterone then move to more intimate areas! Be careful not to change your tone or facial expression when moving from the topic of strong muscles to the growth of pubic hair. Kids read body language better than adults and you don't want to make him think it's bad or dirty...but you probably already knew that part!

    Answer by admckenzie at 11:56 AM on Jul. 1, 2008

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  • Okay, the first answer is from my mom. And I too have a ten year old. I'm not sure if he is going through this or not, but i'll be sure to call my mom when it happens. Good luck

    Answer by tazzyt19 at 4:19 PM on Jul. 1, 2008

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  • He most likely has learned a lot about puberty from school. Just sit him down & tell him that he's going to start noticing different things going on with his body. Tell him, "You'll notice hair between your legs and under your arms. Your voice will start to change soon. You'll need to wear deodorant because your sweat will start to be stinky..." You don't have to lecture him on sex (yet), and let him know that ALL of his friends (boy and girl) are going to start having the same things happening very soon. It might be a little embarrassing for both of you, but if you approach him about it, you're opening the door so that he could come to you if he has any questions later. Good luck!

    Answer by crazysocks830 at 6:08 PM on Jul. 1, 2008

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  • if you feel uncomfortable about, ask a man in his life, your dad, or brother or even a pastor or whatever to talk to him. boys normally won't discuss things like erections and hair growing in strange places with thier moms.

    Answer by princezzmommie at 2:04 AM on Jul. 2, 2008

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  • I have 2 sons and I have always answered every question they have asked about puberty,sex and etc. honestly. Both of my boys who are 12 and 8 already know what to expect with puberty, sex, girls puberty and so on. If they ask I answer without being embarred, or at least letting them know. There is so many commercials and stuff on regular TV now days that gives plenty of opportunity for questions. I have already told both what to do when they think they are ready for sex and all. I  have done this from day 1. When my oldest was starting to go through puberty I asked my husband and his dad to have the talk and neither would do it. Glad I started early.  I had to give talk so I did it with both of them.

    Answer by Rhonda35 at 3:24 AM on Jul. 20, 2008

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  • I have a 12 and 13 yr old boys and they are starting to go through this,I just explained to them that this is part of growing up and all kids go through youngest one has body odor if he dont take showers reguarly he didnt use to do this.just sit him down and tell him explain to him its not a bad thing.

    Answer by lighthouse531 at 2:53 PM on Oct. 2, 2009

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