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Should I spank my child or not?

I have a 14 month old that likes to explore things all the time. She touches everything and anything. I was taught NO SPANKING. I still believe in no spanking. People are always telling me i need to spank her. I try to tell them I will do what I feel is right. They don't seem to understand!! They also think its ok for them to spank her. I do not trust them when I am not around so, I never leave my daughter with them. ANY ADVICE????


Asked by chrstny88 at 7:07 PM on Oct. 22, 2008 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • Tell them to get the f*** away from your child.

    Your daughter is WAY too young to understand whats going on when she gets spanked. She probably understands what yes and no means, but she will def. not understand the spanking.

    Other than that - I despise spanking a child more than anything else. I do never spank my daughter (15months old). My parents NEVER used to spank me or my brother, and we both turned out being very good kids/teenagers and now adults.

    Talking to your child helps more. And your child is still learning so much. She is exploring everything. If you tell her no, then she will be afraid of everything. She needs to explore. Tell her no over and over and over again until she will understand it.

    Answer by m.robertson811 at 7:10 PM on Oct. 22, 2008

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  • If you choose to not spank your child that is your decision. No one...and I mean no one has a right to put their hands on your child. If it is a family member taking this liberty...you need to tell them that you don't spank and they don't spank your child either. This will be a hard boundry to set, but that is what parenting is all about. It is a hard job. If you don't stand up for your children, who will?
    14 months is a bit young to spank, even if you choose to do so. Leaving your child with someone who does this and does not respect your decisions, Well, this may have to change. Either they play by your rules ...or they don't play at all. Your the boss!
    Good luck and take care !

    Answer by MommasCooCoo at 7:14 PM on Oct. 22, 2008

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  • Spanking is a personal choice. You've chosen not to do it, so make that clear to everyone around you. Even if you have to announce as you walk through the door at events, "I do not spank, and you are not to spank my daughter!", do it. Personally, I do spank(however, my kids are older), and allow select family members to do so if they deem it needed. However, I would never presume to spank someone else's child unless given express permission by the parent, and even then, I'd be wary. I think it's very disrespectful that your family/friends/complete strangers are spanking her, whether you've told them you don't spank or not. Stand up for yourself and your daughter and don't let them ignore you. Good luck!

    Answer by tropicalmama at 7:28 PM on Oct. 22, 2008

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  • You do what you feel you need to do. It's your child and only you can answer that. Personally, I spanked... not often, but my kids learned right from wrong. My SIL believed in the counting method and her children walked all over her. It's your decision though....

    Answer by pupmom at 7:35 PM on Oct. 22, 2008

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  • In my opinion she is too young to spank. She won't understand.

    Answer by myboogiewoogie at 7:40 PM on Oct. 22, 2008

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  • Do what you feel is right, and if you do leave her with someone make sure it is CLEAR how you want her to be disciplined. I would be pissed if someone did something to my daughter that i didn't want them doing!

    Us personally, we spank. I think it is the most effective right now. My daughter is 15 months. If she is climbing on something or not listening, we tell her no or get down whatever... after telling her two times the third time we tell her and give her a spank on her butt. If she is touching something she shouldn't be, i give her two warnings... then i smack her hand the third time.

    Answer by Klynn-whitlow at 7:45 PM on Oct. 22, 2008

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  • You have to do whatever works for you... My 14 month old is a little boy, so he is a little tougher and I do spank him. Not hard or anything, I use to do the whole "hand slap" ya that didn't faze him one bit so I spank his butt, he has a diaper on.. And Social Services will tell you it is okay to do as long as you use your hand and only hit the butt... Its not abusing them. It honestly hurts there feelings more than anything...

    Answer by stasia4 at 8:44 PM on Oct. 22, 2008

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  • i-spank-my-15-month-twins!!!----its-your-choice

    Answer by mama2twins07 at 10:04 PM on Oct. 22, 2008

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  • It is your decision and what you think is best for your child. We spank, my son is almost 21 months, and he only gets a spanking, if he has been told not to do something several times and he still isnt listening. And I think at their age, it isnt the "hurt" factor (it shouldnt hurt them) it is more or less the noise when you spank over the diaper that scares them.

    Answer by BoobiePrize at 10:05 PM on Oct. 22, 2008

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  • i disagree w/ physical discipline altogether. but even for those who are ok with it, 18mos is the ABSOLUTE BARE MINIMUM for that kind of stuff. they just cant comprehend why they're being hit before that. as for people who think they can touch your child, slap them across the face. then let them know you have as much right to do it as they do to hit your kid (none, but you'd be making a point). you're right not to trust people. many people think babysitting means they can do as they please. i thought parents left their kids w/ people who'd follow their wishes. but maybe i'm just crazy.

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:11 AM on Oct. 23, 2008

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