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Should I spank my child or not?

I have a 14 month old that likes to explore things all the time. She touches everything and anything. I was taught NO SPANKING. I still believe in no spanking. People are always telling me i need to spank her. I try to tell them I will do what I feel is right. They don't seem to understand!! They also think its ok for them to spank her. I do not trust them when I am not around so, I never leave my daughter with them. ANY ADVICE????

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chrstny88

Asked by chrstny88 at 7:07 PM on Oct. 22, 2008 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • they do not understand a spanking. they understand discipline, time out, things taken away, firm/sterness in your tone, n body lang. at that age it's too young. i've popped my kids hands...example: no, no, no, don't touch, but nuthing to hurt. they usually cry from you saying no, not the tap. so i'd say no spanking...that's ole skool.... do what u feel but that age is too youg to get spanking, cuz guess what, the 14 month old is going to keep doing it. time out is good and firmness, hope i helped ya.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:26 AM on Oct. 23, 2008

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  • I don't see anything wrong with poppin them in the hand when they reach for an outlet or something like that. But it's a personal choice.
    prettyrayray

    Answer by prettyrayray at 1:09 AM on Oct. 23, 2008

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  • you can pop her hand. Not BEAT her. just pop her hand if after a few tiems in telling her no please don't do that hasn't worked and after redirecting her hasnt worked either.
    but when children are older older, they needs spankings.
    Look at the kids now that are not spanked and hardly disiplined. That's why past generations were so much more manored and well behaved.
    shadysyrup313

    Answer by shadysyrup313 at 1:10 AM on Oct. 23, 2008

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  • I didn't spank my daughter at that age. I was taught to use redirection. If you see your daughter about to get into something she is not supposed to get into, the move her away from that area into someplace that you wouldn't mind her getting into. Spanking at that young, she probably won't understand what that means. My suggestion is not to spank.
    Flygirljoi

    Answer by Flygirljoi at 1:23 AM on Oct. 23, 2008

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  • At that age I think spanking isn't necessary..When they are older I feel a pat on the butt is okay but right now it will probably do no good.

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:22 AM on Oct. 23, 2008

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  • Please don't do what someone suggested about slapping someone who spanks your daughter without your permission. I realize it would make a point, and it is tempting. But, in today's world, with everyone so sue-happy and ready to fight, you risk them calling the cops on you, suing you, or beating the crap out of you. I wouldn't want your daughter to see any of that.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 7:41 AM on Oct. 23, 2008

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  • Keep in mind that younger children don't understand abstract ideas so warnings and 'you could get hurt' speeches don't help as much. Do keep up with that b/c she will learn, but she may need a little more than just "no". With my daughter, I pat her bottom then sit her on the floor. She doesn't cry. I'm not hurting her at all -- espcially with that thick diaper on there! I"m just getting her attention and trying to get her used to the idea of time out. Now I'm starting to just sit her down without the touch and hold her in place, again to reinforce the time out idea. The only time I really spank is if what she is doing is dangerous and I need her to get the message FAST! LIke running into the street. BUt I do the same spank the diaper and sit her down where the limit is. Encourage your family/freinds to try the time outs
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:32 AM on Oct. 23, 2008

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  • Well, I would never spank someone elses Child. Me personaly I'm a firm believer in spanking. Mostly only if they do something that can hurt themselves or someone else or if they are very disrespectful to someone. But, if you don't want to spank your child that is your right as her mother to make that choice. Honestly. I bet they would not spank her for fear that she would tell you they did. Unless it has happened before. What about time out? Just tell them that you are trying something new and if she does something that could HURT herself or someone else that she has to sit in the time out chair for a few minutes? I know a lot of mothers who do that! ;0) There is lots of things you can do besides spanking. Come up with your own rule that you are ok with and let them know it. Its a thought ;0)
    smarie1011

    Answer by smarie1011 at 9:13 AM on Oct. 23, 2008

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  • IT'S UP TO YOU! I personally think that one good pop on the diaper or hand gets there attention enough to associate that object or action with an owy or a mad mommy, etc.. For instance when my oldest started exploring and getting into things she shouldn't I'd start off and pop her hand tell her "NO!" move her to were she COULD play, usually worked. When it didn't she'd get a pop on the butt and a more firm "NO!" or "OWY!". IF there was a third she was just set in her crib. It's horrible SOUNDING but I have not delt with more than two good tantrums and now she listens almost IMMEDIATELY.
    watersgirls

    Answer by watersgirls at 2:08 PM on Oct. 25, 2008

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  • In my opinion she is too young to be spanked, but maybe if she is touching something she shouldnt be touching, a firm voice, and if neccisary a tap on the hand. I would not let my family spank my daughter, unless they had my permission first, but for me, spanking is a worst case scenario where all other options have not worked. Personally I am pro spanking, but you cant let someone else tell you that it is or isnt okay to spank your child. If you are not comfortable with it then you dont do it, and you find alternative punishment; there is nothing wrong with that, its your choice. Never let someone make you feel like you have to do something you are not comfortable with.
    barefootbchbum

    Answer by barefootbchbum at 12:55 PM on Jan. 16, 2009

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