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Should I spank my child or not?

I have a 14 month old that likes to explore things all the time. She touches everything and anything. I was taught NO SPANKING. I still believe in no spanking. People are always telling me i need to spank her. I try to tell them I will do what I feel is right. They don't seem to understand!! They also think its ok for them to spank her. I do not trust them when I am not around so, I never leave my daughter with them. ANY ADVICE????


Asked by chrstny88 at 7:07 PM on Oct. 22, 2008 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • Okay, me and my husband have shifts with our son. Meaning I take him from 8am til 5pm and hubby gets him at 5pm til 8am it works for us, anyways my husband spanked him no problem. My son adored his daddy. So today he did something and I spanked him for it all night he wants me! I am not crazy about it or anything but I do think he will listen better. You do what you feel is the right thing to do. My son is almost three BTW!

    Answer by ilovexzavier at 5:26 AM on Feb. 15, 2009

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  • It seems that you have already decided not to spank. Technically, if they spank her, you could have them arrested for assault. I think that you are making a good decision for them to not watch her. If they can't respect your authority as parent on this issue, what else are they going to ignore?

    Answer by apexmommy at 3:26 PM on Feb. 28, 2009

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  • I didn't belive in spanking at first, but my 18 month old has had some serious bad behavior, so I tried spanking briefly. It made me feel like a bad mom, and question myself. So now I decided I will no longer spank.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:22 AM on Sep. 16, 2009

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  • yeah your child is too young to understand
    and im all for spanking, but its just way to early for it. if shes getting into everything and doesn't understand what yes and no are, then sit her down and talk at her about " hunny this is not a toy" she wont get it for a while, but it comes with time. if you dont want to spank, then you have to get to her eye level and tell her in a stern voice not to touch.


    Answer by Lakoia at 7:38 PM on Jan. 2, 2010

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  • I don't believe in spanking, though I have given my 21 month old a quick tap to get her attention but a tap not a swat. I don't beileve in the counting method my mother did it for us and well you just learn to tune it out, yelling doesn't solve anything either. My daughter has got to the point of not wanting to listen, she too loves to explore and touch everything. The way that we handle it is we talk to her as though I was talking to anyone else, I don't necessarily use small words. I make her stop, look me straight in the eyes ( get down to her level on my knees) and I tell her either not to do it, ask her if she is allowed to then explain to her why we don't want her to touch them. There is always a reason for the answer "no" whether it is dangerous for her, too late for sweets, or too cold outside, or just because mom is tired and doesn't have enough energy to chase her there is always a reason.

    Answer by skinnykate at 3:44 PM on Feb. 3, 2010

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  • While I do believe in spanking, I DON'T believe beating. I have a 7, 3 and 4mnth old. My older kids are well behaved. I have never laid a hand on my children out of anger. Not every lil disciplinary issue requires a spanking. Some need time out, toys taken away or just a firm no. I started at about 1y with pops on the hand. I really believe the trick it consistancy. By the time my kids were 2 they really didn't need lil pops anymore. And to this day, all I have to do it look at them and they understand. On VERY RARE occasions, I may have to spank the older ones and that is only for actions that are disrespectful and hurtful. My kids also know that I respect them. I love them and I will always protect them. If your going to spank, you have to do it in the right frame of mind. This is such a touchy issue but I believe, if done right, it can be a good thing and it doesn't harm them. Like i said, if done right.

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:54 AM on Mar. 2, 2010

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