What are some ways to discipline my child without hitting?

My husband and I are committed to disciplining our daughter without spanking or hitting her as routine discipline (I have hit/flicked her hands and her cheek before when she was about to touch the hot burner or was about to choke on something and wouldn't open her mouth). We're trying time-outs and they seem to work, but she throws fits a lot and she like to hit me/head-butt me. I'm not sure how to correct her. My best friend told me I need to spank her more often, but I'm not comfortable hitting her. Any suggestions?

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baenglishwc05

Asked by baenglishwc05 at 11:59 PM on Oct. 24, 2008 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • Honestly, spanking never works. My son head butts me also. Time outs are great. If your child is 2 he gets 2 minutes and so on. What I do is after my son is done with time out and tell him to get out of time and come to me. I have him apologize and explain to him that the behavior is unacceptable. And then we hug and I tell him that I love him. Your child needs to know that you can discipline, and that you still love them. Even though their behavior is driving you crazy. Another thing is you need to be consistent. Time out also goes in the grocery store, department stores, playgrounds. You can't put them in time out for throwing a fit at home, but not doing the same at the store because he can't get a toy. People will look at you like you are crazy, but in the long time you will the behavior improve within a week of strickt time outs. Good luck. Hope this helps.
    Reggie2

    Answer by Reggie2 at 7:01 PM on Oct. 25, 2008

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  • WELL MA DAUGHTER IS 2 AND WHEN SHE HAS FITS I USUALLY JUSS GIVE HER A TIME OUT WHICH I HAVE HER SIT IN HER CHAIR TILL I SAY SHE CAN GET UP.. I DON'T HIT MA DAUGHTER BUT I WILL RISE MA VOICE JUSS SO SHE WOULD LISTEN
    hz_babymama

    Answer by hz_babymama at 12:15 AM on Oct. 25, 2008

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  • 1-2 year olds understand a lot more language then we think. Making eye contact, saying "no", and redirecting her attention works for us. Sometimes it takes a little while but they will get. it. Also, stick to what you say. If you say no and go to move her away from whatever the situation is, don't give in and don't let her do it later. My daughter is always in the cat food. Sometimes it is easier to just let her spill it and clean it up. But I notice the more consistent I am, the less she tries. She wont even go close to it.

    Goody luck
    jcsscfam5

    Answer by jcsscfam5 at 1:23 AM on Oct. 25, 2008

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  • My girls just turned 2 and all of a sudden when they are being naughty all I have to do is threaten them with a time out and they say "NO, NO" and stop. This works even when they are crying for no reason and I say do you need a time out. I was consistent with putting them in time out and holding them there and they decided they didn't like it.

    iammytwinsmom

    Answer by iammytwinsmom at 1:28 AM on Oct. 25, 2008

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  • When you do the time outs...try to explain to her WHY she was put there. Just as jsscfam5 says: 1-2 year olds understand a lot more language then we think." After repitition (they crave this from BIRTH!) she'll figure it out. But stick to it, because she will try all avenues before getting bored and moving to something else. Good luck!
    marinewifenmama

    Answer by marinewifenmama at 4:46 AM on Oct. 25, 2008

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  • My DD is 2 and the worst punishment for her is being isolated. Our "time out" room is the laundry room because there are no toys in there or anything for her to hurt herself on or get into. If she really gets in trouble or throws a tantrum, she ends up in the laundry room until she has regained control of herself. Sounds harsh, but time outs in a chair weren't working because there was too much stimulation from her brother and they didn't phase her. Now if she starts misbehaving, we just mention the laundry room and she straightens up. The other worst punishment is being put to bed without being rocked or having her back rubbed. So if she was being bad right before bed time or nap time, that was the punishment. Of course we always told her why she was being punished too.
    icook

    Answer by icook at 9:27 AM on Oct. 25, 2008

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  • I am having this problem too. Right now, her time out spot is her crib and I have to move away from that because I don't want her to associate bed with being bad. But my DD is really bad about hitting. I tell her no no and she looks at me and does it again. She knows what I am saying too. It is sooo frustrating!!
    rmattes

    Answer by rmattes at 7:49 PM on Oct. 25, 2008

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