How do you deal with a child who is afraid to poop on the potty?

My boy is 2 1/2 and doesn't have pee accidents but he refuses to poop in the potty. He would rather hide than do it. After he is done he will tell me he pooped. Any ideas?! Keep in mind i have already potty trained a little girl.

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Cyndi310

Asked by Cyndi310 at 11:00 PM on Oct. 25, 2008 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • My son was the same way -- he was *very* private about pooping. He didn't start using the toilet for pooping until nearly 3 and a half. Once he was tall enough and old enough to do it all alone. It was just about privacy. Once he could get on the toilet himself and wipe himself, he was perfectly fine.
    Serafyna

    Answer by Serafyna at 11:43 PM on Oct. 25, 2008

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  • I did not have this issue with my own son, but I was a 2's teacher for 3 years, and had TONS of kids who did this. It is extremely frustrating, but there is hope. We had the most success with this problem by watching VERY closely at all times. We learned to recognize the signs that the child was going, (or about to go) then we rushed them to the toilet. Some kids are afraid of the "plop" and some just need that comfort of having something on thier bottom. Up until the toilet was introduced, there was always a soft diaper cushioning his toosh when he pooped, for some kids that sensation is linked to going poop. No softness, no poop. Cont..
    3gifts.from.god

    Answer by 3gifts.from.god at 11:05 PM on Oct. 25, 2008

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  • Cont... Solutions..
    1. Afraid of the "plop:" After he goes in his underware, take him to the potty, and drop the poop into the toilet. He will be able to see and hear the "plop" Sometimes this is the only issue, and the problem stops here. (If your'e lucky)
    2. If he needs that diaper feeling, sit him on the toilet with the diaper (thin underware is actually best if you are brave enough)on to poop. Get him used to sitting on the toilet first. Once he is comfortable there, then start trying with a bare toosh. Cont..
    3gifts.from.god

    Answer by 3gifts.from.god at 11:09 PM on Oct. 25, 2008

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  • cont.. if it doesn't work:
    Let it go. There are kids, that for whatever reason, have a really hard time with pooping in the toilet. There are some rare cases that a child will get so good at holding it in, that it makes it even harder to go when he is ready.
    If he is still having problems going at 5 or 6, or just stops going all together before that, take him to see a Doctor. Don't let people's comments get to you. You can only fail at potty training when you send your kid to his college dorm with a month's supply of pullups.
    3gifts.from.god

    Answer by 3gifts.from.god at 11:14 PM on Oct. 25, 2008

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  • try using a baby doll..put the doll on the potty and slipp some tootsie rolls in the potty when ur baby is not looking an then move the doll and show him the tootsie rolls and he will hopfully be amazed an want to do it too..if u don't want to use a doll cause he is a boy...try his favorite stuffed animal or action figure..jus make it fun!!
    JessicaLilly

    Answer by JessicaLilly at 12:01 AM on Oct. 26, 2008

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  • I told my boy their was magic poop in his butt that needed to come out,so we coud feed it to mr. toilet so mr.toilet won't eat daddy. it worked only thing he wanted to feed it every 3 minutes, and was like a guard watching evryone poop.
    loveluvsme

    Answer by loveluvsme at 2:42 AM on Oct. 26, 2008

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  • my little brother had this problem to it took him til he was 3 to poop on the potty but we just always asked him if he had to go all the time and would have him sit on the potty even if he said no and eventually wed ask and hed say yes and go.
    coleigh420

    Answer by coleigh420 at 5:26 PM on Oct. 26, 2008

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