What should I do if I can't stop cheating on my husband?

when my husband leaves, i cheat on him..i'm too afraid to tell him because i know he's going to leave me..but dont get me wrong, i do love him very very much..it's just that when he's gone, i NEED sex..i guess you can say i'm addicted to it..it's tearing me up inside and i dont know what to do..or who to talk to about it..so i turned to cafe mom..dont judge me...

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Asked by Anonymous at 12:32 PM on Jul. 3, 2008 in Relationships

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  • You say you love your husband, but if you really really did then you'd feel too guilty to cheat on him. You say you NEED sex...have a quickie with your honey before he leaves for work. Morning sex is the best! I think you just say you love him because you're afraid of being alone. If you did love him, you'd tell him because you could be giving him some pretty nasty things by having sex with other men, right after he leaves for work..
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:36 PM on Jul. 3, 2008

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  • Sex addiction is a serious affliction. It's often uncontrollable. You should probably try seeking help if you want to stop this behavior (which can become really dangerous if it hasn't already).

    And for those who don't know...sex addiction has nothing to do with love or pleasure. It's a psychological disorder that affects many people (I don't know the statistic off the top of my head).

    If you love your husband then go get help. Also be sure to get checked for STDs to be sure you and your husband are safe.
    amethystrse

    Answer by amethystrse at 12:46 PM on Jul. 3, 2008

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  • Please ignore those who apparently seem to think they know everything and thought they were God to judge you.
    Amethystrse is right, sex addiction is serious. Don't wait another day to get help.
    Tawanda74

    Answer by Tawanda74 at 12:51 PM on Jul. 3, 2008

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  • If this is an addiction you need phychiatric help. See a doctor.
    Tawanda74

    Answer by Tawanda74 at 12:34 PM on Jul. 3, 2008

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  • IF YOU REALLY SO CALL "LOVE" YOUR HUSBAND, YOU WOULD NOT HAVE DONE THIS TO HIM. CHEATING IS WRONG! I HOPE HE DOES LEAVE YOU CAUSE YOUR NOT WORTH BEING WITH. WHAT GOES AROUND COMES AROUND, REMEMBER THAT WHEN HE CHEATS ON YOU LOL.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:43 PM on Jul. 3, 2008

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  • I agree with Amethystrse and Tawanda74. My ex has sex addiction and has never bothered to seek help, and he has so many more problems now as a result. Get help.
    tropicalmama

    Answer by tropicalmama at 1:17 PM on Jul. 3, 2008

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  • Get help and have yourself checked out for STD's. Also, you NEED to tell your husband about this. It's unfair to him to be sleeping with you when you've been off sleeping with other people. Get some info online and some brochures frmo the doctor's office and have him read them. Hopefully you can both work this out together.
    ReneeK3

    Answer by ReneeK3 at 1:25 PM on Jul. 3, 2008

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  • You should tell him. He deserves to know. If you NEED sex, have it with him.."quickies" before he leaves and such, if need be. I'd also suggest you see a psychiatrist about it. They may be able to help you with your addiction.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:39 PM on Jul. 3, 2008

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  • Ppl cheat for many reasons. If sex is an addiction for you then by all means get help for the addiction. Some ppl cheat for the adrenalin rush of possibly getting caught. It could be that you are predesposed to act upon certain behaviors in an addictive way due to some personality disorder. I have BPD and found out that is why I have done things in my life that made no sense for me to do. I learned to deal with impulsiveness and was able to level out that need for drama and adrenalin. If all else fails, find peace within. Please know that odds are if it continues h may very well find out. If you can't talk to him then perhaps a spiritual counselor or some other unjudgmental person can help. I would make it a female though! No sense in tempting yourself! lol
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 1:54 PM on Jul. 3, 2008

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  • You need counseling, a sex toy and you really need to tell him. It's just wrong to keep something so huge from him. Put yourself in his shoes.
    pilarash

    Answer by pilarash at 1:58 PM on Jul. 3, 2008

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