How do you deal with the questions or judgments about extended breastfeeding?

I was one of those moms that was just going to give nursing a "try", but wasn't dead set on going the mile. Well, 2+ yrs have past and I still am. My kid would never take a bottle (and tried so many) or take formula. Kid now goes all day (when I'm not around) without it but as soon as we get home "I want the mama" & still won't go to bed at night without it (but yet takes a nap at daycare just fine...now). I'm I a push over? I don't really know the purpose of this question, other than to see if there are any other mom's & kids in the same situation. I"m not a "breastfeeding die hard mama", I would have been just fine if she wasn't so set on it. I just find it so hard to take it away since she doesn't seem ready.

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Asked by Anonymous at 11:12 PM on Jul. 3, 2008 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • Tell people that ask you when your going to stop nursing that you hope that by college you can move into his dorm to provide milk, or that you want to breastfeed until your baby is at least driving! Its none of their business, as I always say, if your going to be rude, i'll snap right back. Breastfeed until you and your baby are comfortable with stopping.
    ChasesMommy0115

    Answer by ChasesMommy0115 at 8:52 PM on Jul. 6, 2008

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  • It is like the answer to drugs...."Just say No".
    MommasCooCoo

    Answer by MommasCooCoo at 12:00 AM on Jul. 4, 2008

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  • No, you're not a pushover! If you have no issues with breastfeeding this long then YOU GO FOR IT! Your milk, despite popular belief, doesn't turned to koolaid on your child's first birthday. Nurse as long as you feel it's appropriate. If you don't want to continue breastfeeding then you can wean, but otherwise don't let anyone make you feel like you're wrong for continuing.
    MamaPyratekk

    Answer by MamaPyratekk at 11:29 AM on Jul. 4, 2008

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  • I have to answer this question in two parts because it wont let me put my answer in one post. So Part I-
    YOUR QUESTION- Why is it when you pregnant everyone wants to know if you'll nurse and then if you still do past a year ask when you'll stop?-
    ANSWER--- People ask if you are going to breastfeed because almost everyone knows that breastfeeding is one of the best things you can do for your "infant". As you know it has alot of what she needed to help her build a strong immune system etc....
    People ask when you are going to stop because, well really, because after a child becomes a certain age breastmilk really isnt doing much for the child at all. I know that the first year is the most crucial then after that, not so much.
    Littlem72

    Answer by Littlem72 at 11:40 AM on Jul. 4, 2008

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  • Part II
    YOUR ADDED COMMENT----
    I dont know your situation, but maybe your just not wanting her to grow up so fast right now. When she wants to nurse your bonding with your daughter. But there comes a certain age that bonding can come from other things like going to the park and chasing the birdies or taking a walk somewhere new. If I were you just let her know that they arent there for her anymore, that they are mama's now.
    I didnt mean to be bold and I really do hope that answered your question.
    And my advise is to JUST SAY NO.
    Littlem72

    Answer by Littlem72 at 11:40 AM on Jul. 4, 2008

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  • "a certain age breastmilk really isnt doing much for the child at all."

    It is a myth that at some point breastmilk is less beneficial. Should it continue being a child's only source of nutrition? No. However, it continues to help with immunity the entire time the child is on breastmilk. My midwife and pediatrician are both pro-extended breastfeeding for this reason.

    For more information on the facts of extended breastfeeding I suggest the following links:
    http://www.kellymom.com/bf/bfextended/ebf-benefits.html
    http://www.kellymom.com/nutrition/milk/bmilk-composition.html

    http://www.cdc.gov/nchs/data/nhanes/growthcharts/set1clinical/cj41l018.pdf
    MamaPyratekk

    Answer by MamaPyratekk at 11:53 AM on Jul. 4, 2008

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  • Dont get me wrong, I am not against breastfeeding at all, I did it with all four. I am just stating that THE MOST benefit from breastmilk is within the first year. Thats all.
    Here is an exerpt I have found and I will also leave the link.
    EXERPT- A number of organizations, including the World Health Organization, the La Leche League, and the American Academy of Pediatrics, have tried to determine how long babies should be breastfed. Some say six months is enough, others say you can stop after one year, and some even say you can continue nursing toddlers. But the truth is, there is no magic number. Each baby is different and each mother must decide for herself and her baby how long to continue breastfeeding
    LINK http://www.swedish.org/16578.cfm
    Littlem72

    Answer by Littlem72 at 3:01 PM on Jul. 4, 2008

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