Anyone have tips for having the sex talk with a tween or teen?

my husbands brother is turning 16 this year and they dont have a father figure to talk to so my husband is gonna have to be the one to give him the big sex talk. i was just wondering if anyone has any suggestions on how to start it or what to say speaking from my husbands point of view.... i dont want them just joking about it not taking it seriously like guys can do.

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Asked by wifey000175554 at 4:15 PM on Oct. 31, 2008 in Tweens (9-12)

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  • In talking with your child or adolescent, it is helpful to:

    * Encourage your child to talk and ask questions.
    * Maintain a calm and non-critical atmosphere for discussions.
    * Use words that are understandable and comfortable.
    * Try to determine your child's level of knowledge and understanding.
    * Keep your sense of humor and don't be afraid to talk about your own discomfort.
    * Relate sex to love, intimacy, caring, and respect for oneself and one's partner.
    * Be open in sharing your values and concerns.
    * Discuss the importance of responsibility for choices and decisions.
    * Help your child to consider the pros and cons of choices.

    By developing open, honest and ongoing communication about responsibility, sex, and choice, parents can help their youngsters learn about sex in a healthy and positive manner.

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    lexicon

    Answer by lexicon at 4:21 PM on Oct. 31, 2008

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  • Well these days kids dont need a sex talk their peers most likly already did that part
    Heaven0802

    Answer by Heaven0802 at 4:31 PM on Oct. 31, 2008

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  • The sad thing is hun, Now days kids at the age of 16 have already had sex. Or one of the friends has. And they know all about it. The best thing to do. Is have your husband be honest and ask questions, And see were it go's. Your husband has to read into the way the child is acting.if he is claming up. Then he may want to joke a little. But always keep the facts there. And if the child already knows about sex. then they will more then likely say. So just let your husband do it the best way he can. And keep your fingers crossed. Im sure your husband will do just fine. I think this day though, Children should be talked to about sex, A lot earlyer. Its a known fact that kids are having sex at the age of 9. So just be open. He may all ready know.
    Patty
    MOMofTwo_99_00

    Answer by MOMofTwo_99_00 at 9:31 PM on Oct. 31, 2008

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  • Most likely he knows it all heck hes prob. done it all, lol i lost my virginity at 14 and never had the sex talk with my parents yet i knew it all from being around other kids my age
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:01 AM on Nov. 1, 2008

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  • ANONYMOUS 9:01- Yeah, well we're not all like that. Maybe she wants him to be responsible instead of giving it up to everyone he sees, eh? Maybe this boy is really a GOOD kid and they want to teach him the right way to handle his body and to protect himself and his partner, if he chooses to have sex.

    He may know a lot about sex from talking to friends that have done it, and yes, he may have done it already. The important thing is to make sure he has all the information he needs to protect himself and his partners. Your responsibility is to make sure he knows how to use a condom, knows the likelihood of STDs and pregnancy, and is safe. Of course the safest sex is no sex at all until marriage, but nowadays a lot of kids aren't following that (myself included unfortunately) and we want them to know what they're getting themselves into.
    oh__you

    Answer by oh__you at 12:17 PM on Nov. 1, 2008

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  • If you have cable you should watch a show called "sex with mom and dad" it has dr drew that helps parents really be able to talk to their kids about sex. It will help! Get the child to set down with yall. At age 16 I am sure they already know by then. heck there are things my 15 year old can tell me that I never knew. But we do watch that show together and then we discuss it after wards.
    princessG42870

    Answer by princessG42870 at 4:54 PM on Jun. 11, 2009

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  • Hi, I wrote an article called How To Talk To Your Teen When Approached About Sex it has all the answers you will need to deal with this difficult and delicate situation. here's the link to my articles Click Here


    Hope it can be of help.

    NeverGiveUp489

    Answer by NeverGiveUp489 at 7:33 PM on Sep. 28, 2009

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