Is spanking an appropriate way to discipline my 3-year-old?

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Asked by Anonymous at 4:07 AM on Nov. 13, 2008 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • It is never ok to use bad words talk to you child. As for spanking that is a personal choice and I am sure some will agree that it is fine- some will not. I found that standing in the corner or time out worked with my kids.
    candygirl1030

    Answer by candygirl1030 at 5:21 AM on Nov. 13, 2008

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  • i agree with candygirl.. do not say any bad words around any kids they will start picking it up.. if u want to spank that it ur choice but it depends on how hard you do it. and where. some people think its ok to slap a 3 yr old in the face and its not! i am not for spanking though, i also dont put kids in the corner like they r something to push out of the way i dont find that right to do.. my daughter is only 15 months im sure she will do a lot worse stuff when shes 3 but im sure i will still use time out. she gets 3 warnings and then i sit her down near me.. usually she will sit there one min cry and get over it. with my nephew who is 4 i sit him on the couch (no tv) for 4 mins.. time out seems to work the best for me
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:21 AM on Nov. 13, 2008

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  • Saying a bad wrod I would say no no we don\t say that it is a bad word and if it keeps coming out then do what you feel is right but they need to know that they should not say it first. I am a sahm and I am with my almost 4 year old all the time I have not had to do more then tell him to have a sit down with me and we say that is not a good word we should not say it a gain or we will get into trouble he has not gotten itno trouble but reminded a few times. Saying words is different then doing something physical that will hurt them or someone else. They hear adults say things and not get in to trouble so to get into trouble for saying something Daddy said does not seem right for them.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:41 AM on Nov. 13, 2008

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  • Why would you use bad words with your child? I agree that spanking is a personal decision...but think that if you are cussing at the kid while you are doing it, then you are doing it out of anger and not discipline. Spanking while angry or out of anger is not acceptable....that's how people hurt their children. If you feel the need to cuss at your 3 year old, you are probably not the best person to care for that child....ask for help.
    Kimebs

    Answer by Kimebs at 7:05 AM on Nov. 13, 2008

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  • Never okay to use bad words.(even thoughmost moms at some point have slipped) I agree with above spanking is a personal choice. Time-out is a good alternative also, find one place in the house and make them sit for one minute for every year old they are, discipline isn't pleasant by all means but it should never be a cussing session. If you are mad about something that your child does maybe put them in time-out and take one yourself and then when the time is up THEN talk to them about what they did wrong.

    Izzyscrazymom

    Answer by Izzyscrazymom at 7:30 AM on Nov. 13, 2008

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  • Never hit a child. Never. Never. Never. NEVER. Tell him it's wrong and give him a word to use instead. At 3, he will happily use the new word. He wants to express anger or get shock value. If he gets a rise out of you (even if you hit him) he wins!

    My coach in basketball always warned us. Never use a bad word or they can sit you out for the game or the season. The Worst thing you can say to or from an athelete is something fattening with lots of cholesterol. My kids think this is great and they do it.

    Yell "Fudge Cake" Yell "Boston Cream Pie" I once heard my daughter call my son "You're a Jelly Doughnut!!!!" Pick a fat word, tell him that is what little people say when angry, and he will be pleased.

    BTW, at 3, where did he hear a a bad word in order to repeat it? Where did he learn the context to use it? There is the person you need to see to address this issue...not your child.
    LeftBrainy

    Answer by LeftBrainy at 8:08 AM on Nov. 13, 2008

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  • There is nothing wrong with spanking.. but there IS somethingwrong with "using bad words" to discipline a child. As for the mom that says never hit a child.. what may not work for you may work for anothermom. Never say never. So while you may never spank, no ones children are the same and maybe her child will respond better to a spanking than your children would.

    LyTe684

    Answer by LyTe684 at 8:19 AM on Nov. 13, 2008

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  • Hit a toddler and you teach him to hit. Bully a child and you teach him to bully. Never, never hit a child. You don't want him to learn that hitting is OK if the circumstances are right. The circumstances are never right.

    As your pediatrician. The are a fountain of information - not just vaccinations. You don't have to pay for a doctor's visit. You can phone the clinic and leave a question for the advise nurse or for the pediatrician to call you back. Somebody will call you back with an answer.
    LeftBrainy

    Answer by LeftBrainy at 8:24 AM on Nov. 13, 2008

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  • Why would you want to spank a child? Doesn't that just promote worse behavior? Children pick things up SO fast. If you're spanking, they'll think it's okay to hit others. It just doesn't make sense. And to yell or use bad words to a child? oh my. This breaks my heart. I would hope that no one would use harsh language or even degrade a child. That only causes low self esteem and problems in the long run. Please don't hit or yell/use bad language to or around your child.
    evasmamma

    Answer by evasmamma at 8:27 AM on Nov. 13, 2008

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  • No spanking does NOT promote worse behavior. That is a MYTH or better yet should I say a lie. EACH child reacts different to different styles of discipline.

    LyTe684

    Answer by LyTe684 at 8:30 AM on Nov. 13, 2008

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