How can I make our sex life more exciting?

my husband opened up yesterday, saying that our sex life is dead. what can i do to bring it back to life? i am an exhausted mom of a 4 month old teething little boy. i want our intimacy to be real and not scheduled. any ideas?


Asked by Anonymous at 5:03 PM on Jul. 7, 2008 in Relationships

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  • Ask your Husband what would make it more interested for him. When I had a 4 month old, every other week or so We would drop him off at my moms, and go back home. I didn't mind scheduling sex, because it was so much better with no monitor on, or the stress of knowing my baby could wake up any minute.

    Answer by Simonsmama at 5:15 PM on Jul. 7, 2008

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  • After you get up in the middle night with the baby and your boy is asleep. Wake your DH up and show him a good time.

    Answer by cutievibe at 7:32 PM on Jul. 7, 2008

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  • get a baby sitter, get a new (or old) outfit that makes YOU feel sexy, and go out and do something silly with your husband like putt putt golf....then have a nice romantic dinner or cuddle up and watch a movie at home together....that, or get a funny toy from a sex shop and learn how to use it together...nothing turns my man on more than watching me play with a new toy and he loves to do it to me to!

    Answer by LoriaAnn at 9:48 PM on Jul. 7, 2008

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  • Hi my name is Andrea and I am a Passion Parties Consultant and we have so many products that could help you with the intimacy. There are also many things that can help you feel sexy and sensual even though you are exhausted. Give me a yell if you would like some more information.

    Answer by PASSIONATELOVRS at 10:01 PM on Jul. 7, 2008

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  • get some lingerie, and when on that rare night where the baby goes to sleep early, sneak away and put on your lingerie and then surprise your husband. You won't imagine how sexy lingerie will make you feel and how fast it will put you in the mood. It's like magic for me. Make sure you get something that flatters your good parts and hides what you don't want seen.

    Answer by stefanierios at 10:37 PM on Jul. 7, 2008

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  • I don't know how racy you were wanting to go, but after the birth of my daughter I just wasn't interested in sex at all, but knowing my boyfriend still thought I was beautiful and wanted to sleep with me helped. To spice things up, I dropped by his office for "lunch" was an easy cover for a sitter too! I was just having lunch with him, right :) While it might be a little scheduled for you, it would still be a surprise for him.

    Answer by kabbot01 at 11:11 PM on Jul. 7, 2008

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  • u need more spontenaity, more dates also. plus, the more sex u have generally the more sex u crave.

    Answer by kissmiss213 at 1:57 AM on Jul. 8, 2008

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