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Asked by Anonymous at 12:14 AM on Nov. 16, 2008 in School-Age Kids (5-8)

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  • My 16 year old sister has the same issue talk to a psycologist and ask if they can prescribe meds. My sister takes Aderal XR every morning before school and her behavior is alot better without it she is just mean and really obnoxious.
    Lizzie32390

    Answer by Lizzie32390 at 12:19 AM on Nov. 16, 2008

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  • My 9 year old has ADHD and ODD. He sees a psychiatrist and a therapist and he is also on medication. I give my son one on one with homework and that seems to help and with the medication it helps him focus, it makes it a little easier. He made an A, 2 B's,C, and a D on his last report card, thankful for no F's.The meds make a difference with the education, now behavior that is a different story. My sons psychiatrist says that the meds he is on helps with the focusing,etc, but not the behavior. People say structure makes a big difference, I myself am not very good at the routine thing. Try that, let me know if it works.
    ncmamaof4a

    Answer by ncmamaof4a at 12:40 AM on Nov. 16, 2008

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  • i have a 9 year old son who is ADHD - we are treating him naturally, foing on 4 years now - I am happy to share what we do...
    AndreaRUJuiced

    Answer by AndreaRUJuiced at 12:43 AM on Nov. 16, 2008

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  • Don't give the child adderol! It is a terrible narcotic very similar to crystal meth. It may work for some children with ADD or ADHD, however, it can cause a lot of problems down the road from long term use. I would not recommend any psychiatric drug for a child, seeing as I was medicated for ADD at seven years old, was misdiagnosed, and switched to bipolar medication at 15, and now am unmediated and suffer from serious brain damage from mis and over medication. You should really look in to natural remedies, and nutrition to start, and only use medication as a very last resort... and if you do go the medication route, don't go for the adderol. I have met people in psych wards who have had serious psychosis because of their prescription to this drug!
    lillys_mommy09

    Answer by lillys_mommy09 at 1:36 AM on Nov. 16, 2008

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  • i washad add and adhd .but i grew out of it :some pointers, i never took any medication,try a healthy breakfast. help with her homework keep her interested by making a game out of it.like trivia . a sport helps reduce all the energy. get a callender for her, get some star stickers, put a blue star for good grades.gold star for behavior ,green star for completion of homework. let her know that for 5 stars a week for each color rewards him/her with something like going to park/friends house/or letting her select what she wants. maybe money .. like $5 for all the stars or a toy she wants. thats what my mother did with me . if that doesnt work, then maybe you should inform your dr. about the callender idea you tried and let him know it didnt work and see if he has any suggestion. hopefully it will work for your son/daughter and save you some sanity.
    missmom1421

    Answer by missmom1421 at 3:27 AM on Nov. 16, 2008

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  • I'm a therapist who worked with a lot of children with ADD and ODD. It is a very difficult job to parent children who have these medical issues. While ADHD is a life long disorder ODD does not have to be. Sometimes I have questions about ODD as far as is it really separate from the ADHD diagnosis. But that is a whole nother topic. I hate piling on the medical diagnosis' when sometimes it is really an extention of a known issue. So lets start with ADHD. Most people think it is simple. Girl, it is a complicated disorder. Many children with ADHD also have issues with depression (b/c they are always in trouble and feel like they are just "bad" and no matter what they do they can never be "good." When really the impulsiveness, hyperactivityl, inattentiveness and other symptoms of ADHD is what is interfering with their ability to be the kid they really are.)
    frogdawg

    Answer by frogdawg at 11:32 AM on Nov. 16, 2008

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  • cont..Then many kids, along with depression, have anxiety. Always waiting for the next shoe to drop b/c they usually are always in trouble. So enters in the lying. The list goes on and on. ADHD is so complex, IMO, that it really does require professional and long term intervention. Which requires a knowledgable and dedicated team. That team, again IMO, should consist of a therapist, psychiatrist, psychiatric nurse, piediatrictian, parents, child, and teachers. Also grandparents and siblings should even take part. Medication is a good start but is only one part of the treatment plan. Parenting, support groups (like CHADD), cognitive behavioral thearpy, and family therapy are vital. As well as working on social skills, self-esteem, and being physically active. I also believe a healthy diet and exercise goes along way.
    frogdawg

    Answer by frogdawg at 11:41 AM on Nov. 16, 2008

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  • cont...When a child starts to feel good about themselves, the medication, therapy,and family team work starts kicking in...so will being able to use better coping skills to tackel school work and other hard to handle situations. Oh, and if not done so already he may be elligable for a 504 or IEP. The kids I worked with who had ADHD I often advocated for less homework (still had homework but less actual problems per assignment), they never got punished by taking away recess (I hate that!), work inside class was reduced (again same work but just less amounts), and frequent ability to take breaks. Plus a whole host of other things if it benefited the child's educational needs. It is not easy but it can be done. PM if you want to have more tips.
    frogdawg

    Answer by frogdawg at 11:47 AM on Nov. 16, 2008

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  • Have u tried talking to the principle about finding him a class and/or school that works with kids of ADHD?
    my_jasnkiki

    Answer by my_jasnkiki at 10:47 PM on May. 16, 2009

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  • i would work with a school social worker and maybe get a refferal to a really good chicl psychologist and try to get some behavioral therapy.........personally i would try all other avenues before medicating your child.
    keeperof2

    Answer by keeperof2 at 8:38 PM on May. 28, 2009

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