How can I help my kid get into a good college?

I'm stressing out. I have no money to send my child to college and she wants to go to college and have the dorm live. She knows what she wants to major in but I'm stressing and crying because I don't know the "first" step how to get her there. It might be to late she's in a senior in high school. Her grade point average is 2.8, did volunteer service, works, and involved with legal academy at her school. What can I do as a parent to help her out. What is the short sweet to the point answer? Or is there one? what can I do to relax her and me?


Asked by bmwlover at 11:20 AM on Nov. 16, 2008 in Teens (13-17)

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  • SHE needs to focus more on school. Her GPA is low. She needs to speak with her guidance counselor and find out what she can do quickly to get her where she wants to be.

    Answer by EireLass at 11:22 AM on Nov. 16, 2008

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  • Enroll her in your local community college. Get the basics, prerequisites done first. She can live at home and still work towards her goal. "Good" colleges are generally loking for a gpa better than 2.8, but they also look for well rounded kids. She can apply and transfer to the big school as a juinor when she will begion working on her major. It is way, way, way cheaper to do it that way. Also, look into scholarships. Talk to her counselor at school.

    Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 11:24 AM on Nov. 16, 2008

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  • After you get your tax returns done, you should immiately fill out a FAFSA. You will need to get all the assistance you can for her. Dorm life is expensive. She will most likely have to take out student loans as well. You can check this on your FAFSA form or talk to your local banks about it. She does need to try to bring up her grades though, and get a good score on her ACT.

    Answer by pupmom at 12:31 PM on Nov. 16, 2008

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  • First I would have her talk to the counselors at school and see if there are any scholarships she can apply for. if she is to late for that stuff then I would present her with this. Also, have her apply to the colleges she wants to go to and see if she gets in. Financial Aid is available, I am just not sure if it is to late this year.

    I would talk to her about going to a community college. It would save money and get her started in the right direction. After her 2 years there she can transfer to a 4 year college and live there. This is how my DH and I both did things. If you have more questions about this send me a message.
    Good Luck

    Answer by cornflakegirl3 at 3:41 PM on Nov. 16, 2008

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  • There are plenty of excellent colleges for people with a 2.8 gpa, espcially if she has strong interests and other activities! If she applies to the colleges that are right for her, she is likely to get accepted to several. If they are private colleges they will offer her scholarships in some amount even before you do the FAFSA. Research it online---there is a lot of good, helpful information out there. Please don't be discouraged! Not everyone has to go to an ivy league school to get a good education. Talk to the guidance department as soon as possible and get the names of the website that helps you find colleges that are right for you....and there is also a book that lists all the colleges by state and tells you what the average gpa and sat scores are for their students so you can really find a school where your daughter can learn and succeed!

    Answer by BJoan at 3:41 PM on Nov. 16, 2008

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  • continued....If she is open to the idea of community college for the first two years she can save a ton of money, transfer to an even better school as a junior and start her life after college with less of a student loan burden! There are many ways to get to the same place so please don't be discouraged! It isn't hard if you take it one step at a time. Try not to focus on the competitive aspect but on the goal of furthering her education and giving her opportunities! My daughter is in college now with a lower high school GPA than your daughter's. By selecting the right schools she has never been rejected from any of the schools she has applied to, and she has had her pick.

    Answer by BJoan at 3:46 PM on Nov. 16, 2008

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  • Yes, community college first is a great beginning to college, especially if she can stay at home while she takes on the extra work of college classes. Dorm life is extremely hazardous, especially for a girl younger than 19 or away from home. Dorms are NOT an essential part of college, so she can wait for that just fine. In community college, she can bring up her grade point average, plus, the classes tend to have a better mix of ages so she won't have to deal with the ridiculous idiocy of college kids who are basically still immature high school kids newly freed from parental guidance (that's why dorms can be hazardous). Our daughter visited many colleges and purposely chose one where all ages, freshmen up to college senior, were mixed together in most classes. She had been in a couple of all-freshmen classes and found it completely a waste of time. Good Luck !!

    Answer by waldorfmom at 5:27 PM on Nov. 16, 2008

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  • I agree with the posters that say the best thing she can do is boost her GPA as much as possible in the next year. Even just to a 3.0 would help a lot. Also, you can take and re-take the ACT and I would recommend doing that as many times as possible to boost her score there. Ask her to get as many academic letters of reference from her current and past teachers as possible. These will help her when submitting references for school and for scholarships. There are usually scholarships available for specific degree programs as well as general scholarships. APPLY FOR A TON!!! I mean really, it is a lot of effort to fill out so many forms, but the hundreds or thousands of dollars you could potentially earn from it is well worth it and it is cheap for you to do, just the cost of paper. Work on a good writing sample as well and see if one of her English teachers will review it for errors for her.

    Answer by kabbot01 at 10:06 PM on Nov. 16, 2008

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  • I agree...local community college. Almost all of them have dorms, where she can live the dorm life, or stay at home. AFter taxes...APPLY FOR A FASFA Pell Grant! I'm in school now, and dont know where I would be with out it! lol...and also she might have to take out a student loans, and scholarships. That should help out alot.

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:21 AM on Nov. 17, 2008

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  • 2.8 isn't going to get her into a great school - no matter what her other activities are. But it will get her into a college. Just maybe not the one of her choice. Yes she may want that college experience of living in a dorm but there is also this little thing called reality. Reality may be that finances (and grades) limits her choices. Don't let her put this all on you. There are many smaller schools in local areas that are much more affordable tutition. Some even have dorming options. I personally went to a local college, lived at home initially, and then transfered into a very good collge. I graduated, I went to graduate school, and (God help me) I'm going to get my Ph.d. Ask her what her end goal is? To party and have the "college" experence. You don't need college for that. Or to have a good job, be stable, and have choices later in life?

    Answer by frogdawg at 11:20 AM on Nov. 17, 2008

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