Is it better to give my baby a pacifier instead of letting him suck his thumb?

My son will not use a pacifer not even when he was a newborn he is now 7 months. but now that he is teething and stuff he will stick his hand or his thumb in his mouth. my MIN told me i need to give him a pacifer because its harder to stop them from sucking a thumb. Should i try giving him a pacifer or just stick to what he does. he is 7 months and has never used a pacifer and really doesnt need one, but he does like to suck on his hands. im just confussed on what to do and i a bad mom because i dont even him a pacifer, he not a cryer. my MIN just makes me feel like a bad mom because i dont give him one.


Asked by DilsMommy at 7:02 PM on Nov. 25, 2008 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • If he is only using his thumb to help with the pain from teething then I would think he would stop on his own.

    It doesnt matter whether its a pacifier or a thumb - its the reason behind it. If they are doing it out of habit because a parent keeps shoving a paci in their mother to keep them quiet, or they are using it for emotional comfort - I would think then it would be a problem to give up.

    My son only ever used his pacifier for teething (and he is one now and stopped using it several months ago alone).

    Answer by keyaziz at 7:08 PM on Nov. 25, 2008

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  • my daughter doesnt use a pacifier she only sucks on the thumb id rather see that in her mouth then a stupid old pacifier

    Answer by dewey_scoles at 8:02 PM on Nov. 25, 2008

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  • I would prefer the thumb over a paci. My pedi told me that the thumb comes with more emotional attachment, but you can never lose it and have to run out in the middle of the night to get a new one.

    Answer by coala at 8:33 PM on Nov. 25, 2008

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  • the problem with the thumb is they can never lose it. I have a cousin who sucked her thumb until she was in her teens. Anytime she was upset or anxiuos, she would automatically suck her thumb and not even realize she was doing it. Also the thumb can mess up their teeth. Try putting a clean burp rag or corner of their blankey over the thumb. My daughter tried sucking her thumb and I put a silk hankey over her hand and now she is almost two and doesn't suck her thumb.

    Answer by MommaMcG at 10:57 PM on Nov. 25, 2008

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  • Its rare to have a child with a thumb-sucking problem. Most doctors will tell you that even if the child is still sucking their thumb at age five, more than likely they will stop when they start getting teased about it in school! LOL... I know, its terrible, but effective. And as for the thumb-sucking vs. pacifier while teething, it is common for them to chew on their hands when teething, so I wouldn't get them started on a new bad habit just for that. Teething is painful and they will do what they can to stop the pain, and chewing fingers can help that. Mine did it for four months, and now he's stopped. But something that can help teething is frozen teething rings, they never failed to help my little guy when he was in lots of pain!

    Answer by Iskkra at 12:16 AM on Nov. 26, 2008

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  • We prefer the pacifier, although my son doesn't take it too often. We figure it's easier to take away when it's time to wean than the thumb. He still sucks on his fingers sometimes, especially now that he's teething, but we try giving him OUR fingers instead to suck on, or toys to chew on. It helps! Also, try to frozen washcloth. Our son LOVES it.

    Answer by musicpisces at 4:36 PM on Nov. 26, 2008

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  • I had one of that used a pacifier and the other is a thumb sucker. i personally prefer the pacifier because you can just casually make the pacifier disappear, a thum you can't. i am speaking from personal experience, i was a thumb sucker my self and continued the habit all the way through college. it is best that you try to break the habit before they start school due to how mean kids can be....needless to say, my childhodd was not easy with being picked on and all the name calling...and that started in elementary. my son is 2 and sucks his thumb and i am now working with him to get him to stop, but it is not an easy task.

    Answer by KLynneH at 2:10 AM on Dec. 2, 2009

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