Should I give my baby my last name or his dad's last name?

I'm due in February and me and sons dad are not together anymore, he says hes going to be there for him once he's born but he's not even making an effort now, he promised to go my last Dr. appointment and then called when I was on my way to get him and said he couldn't, so now I'm having second thought about giving my son his last name. I know he's going to get angry if I don't give Gunner his last name, but I just don't want to give my baby his last name and have him do these same things and basically be a sperm donor. So my sons name is either going to be.... Gunner James Dickson (his dads last name) or Gunner Joshua Scheurer (my last names and his dads first name as his middle name).

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J.e.n

Asked by J.e.n at 1:31 PM on Nov. 28, 2008 in Baby Names

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  • I would do your last name. You are the one that is going to be enrolling him in school, taking him to the doctor, etc. I gave my son his dad's last name and I have to bring additional documents to prove he's mine since his last name is different.
    a_and_j_momma

    Answer by a_and_j_momma at 1:33 PM on Nov. 28, 2008

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  • I think that you should go with Gunner Joshua Scheurer, because if he hasnt even made an effort and you rbaby isnt even hear yest what makes someone think he will when he really comes, and is crying and needs to be fed or changed, and at least with the fathers name somewhat in there, theres still a peice of his father in there. I think you made the right choice by trying to have somewhat communicate with him on that part. Props to you mommy!
    CONGRATS!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:35 PM on Nov. 28, 2008

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  • doesnt really matter id say. I gave my son his fathers last name and we werent together when he was born. i dont need extra documents when enrolling him in school or any of that to prove hes mine. If hes not going to sighn the birth certifacate then it might be easier to get child support from him if you give the baby his last name but regardless unless he sighns it they will just order a dna test. use your best judgement. what name do you want your baby to carry on after all he is a boy so it will never change.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:39 PM on Nov. 28, 2008

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  • personally......i would say give him your last name. My Soon to be exhusband hasn't been in my son's life since he was born...we are still legally married but i gave him My madien name. I debated about it but when they came in to get his name...without really thinking I gave him my maiden name & now I'm sooo happy I did 'cuz of how it all turned out. Remember it can always be changed later to his last name if you decided to go that route. I however didn't do that with my youngest son...he has my boyfriends last name...I wanted to give him mine but he wasn't having it...yes in the end it was my choice and although I do have some regret for him not having my maiden name...my boyfriend has been there since the beginning so for the most part...I'm alright with it. Go with your gut....and name him as YOU want him to be named!!
    Dabugg698

    Answer by Dabugg698 at 1:41 PM on Nov. 28, 2008

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  • Your last name, sorry he is being a JA right now.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:42 PM on Nov. 28, 2008

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  • Your last name. You know that YOU will always be there for him.
    Bmat

    Answer by Bmat at 1:45 PM on Nov. 28, 2008

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  • I would go with your last name.... not only are you going to be a constant in his life... I think the name is beautiful!
    KYarger

    Answer by KYarger at 1:49 PM on Nov. 28, 2008

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  • I was born and raised by my mom, never met my dad. I have her last name. It made me feel connected to the family and Im glad she did that for me. Otherwise I would have been the only one in her family with an odd last name.
    gemgem

    Answer by gemgem at 2:08 PM on Nov. 28, 2008

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  • your last name. So much easier for everything. I had my bio-fathers name and my mom was always being calling by his last name when I was in school and and the doctors. annoying
    Lynette

    Answer by Lynette at 2:32 PM on Nov. 28, 2008

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  • Yours, please!
    gypsysmiles

    Answer by gypsysmiles at 2:34 PM on Nov. 28, 2008

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