How can I get my child to stay in his bed?

My son is 2 1/2. We got him a "big boy" bed when he started trying to climb out of his crib. He likes it(it's Cars), but he refuses to sleep in it. He also, now, is refusing to sleep in his crib. He climbs out about 20 times a night before he gives up and goes to sleep(usually 11 PM or midnight). I'm at my wits end trying to get him to sleep, potty train, and eat real food again. Any suggestions?


Asked by jazztastic at 8:34 PM on Dec. 4, 2008 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • I also would say to just do one thing at a time. Even though it might not seem like alot to us, its sometimes over welming for them. I have a 23 month old son and we have three goals.... #1 to get him back in his own bed, #2 only have the binky at night time and nap and #3 no more bottles. We just threw away all the bottles yesterday and everything seems to be going fine, now he just drinks the sippys like there bottles lol but what ever works. As far as the bed goes, he sleeps with us so tonight Im going to put up his bassinet/playpin next to our bed and then eventually work him into his crib in his own room. I dont push him right now cause hes still learning so much... I just gradually work with him. Good luck to you and just give your little one some time.

    Answer by LANDENSMOMMYlmk at 11:34 PM on Dec. 4, 2008

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  • I would say try one thing at a time. You have to be consistent but do not overload him, think about which of the three you want first, then second then last, that way you can work with him with each. As far as staying in bed, my dd started sleeping in her big girl bed when she was about 2 and we put it in our room and she stayed in most nights all night, some nights she would crawl in our bed but for the msot part she did ok, after she started sleeping all night in her bed we moved it into her room and she was fine, now we are working on the "monsters under the bed" lol. Good luck!!

    Answer by Mommy_of_two_85 at 8:46 PM on Dec. 4, 2008

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  • Our older two went through this stage around the same age as your ds. We let them sleep in the hall way outside our room with their sleeping bags (or blankets) and every two or three nights we moved them closer to their room. We kept the door open so they could see us (which cramped our alone time temporarily lol) and it worked. By the time they were "back in their room", they were fine and sleeping through the night. It helped that they're only a year and eight days apart and had each other. If he's your only child, maybe try a favorite stuffed animal, blanket, etc. to help comfort him. You might also try getting a Sounds of Nature CDand playing it in his room to help him relax and wind down. Maybe try bathing him with JJ's lavender baby bath. I think it's supposed to be calming. We've never tried these two but it's just a thought. Hope this helps some.


    Answer by LovingParent08 at 1:17 AM on Dec. 5, 2008

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  • Try letting him take something to bed with him, and make it something that he can ONLY have in bed.. like a comfort item.. maybe it will motivate him?! Also, I agree... do not overload him. Remember babies can only handle so much and overloading can cause more problems. Good luck! Ohh yeah, and be consitent, if you give up once or let it slide then you have to start all over!

    Answer by ShannonRiddle at 1:52 AM on Dec. 5, 2008

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  • Lay down with him until he is asleep. Or let him go to sleep in your bed and move him after. Or let him sleep with you.

    Answer by Chrissy629 at 6:21 AM on Dec. 5, 2008

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  • use the "nanny 911" technique....start your bed time by taking him to his room, reading him a book, give him a kiss, and LEAVE....when he gets up, put him back with a "it's bed time", when he gets up again, put him back AND SAY NOTHING TO HIM....keep doing it, keep your cool, say nothing to him at all, and for gosh sakes take down that crib...your just confusing him...take it down, put it away, and show him mommy means business! don't result to putting him in your bed, don't sleep with him, don't give him a cup to sleep....just be stern, be consistent, and it will work with in a week if you do it right. i did this with my son when he was 18 months old, and IT WORKED in 3 DAYS! you do the SAME thing for naps. it works.


    Answer by lovinmyseabee at 7:25 AM on Dec. 5, 2008

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  • Ok, NEVER let your child go to bed with you. That is the worst habit ever! No offense Chrissy, I am not trying to be mean but that only creates issues in the long run... soooo unhealthy!

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:42 PM on Dec. 5, 2008

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  • agree the the cooment above! if your child is very ill its ok to have her or her in bed with you buit only for a little while then take him or her back to there bed! u have to stick to it if he gets out just simply tell him no its bed time and lay him back down sooner or later he will get the point!

    Answer by dollface85 at 3:54 PM on Dec. 24, 2009

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  • Quote "Ok, NEVER let your child go to bed with you. That is the worst habit ever! No offense Chrissy, I am not trying to be mean but that only creates issues in the long run... soooo unhealthy!"


    My son came into my bed off and on until he was about 7....he's 15 now, and is no worse for it. As a matter of fact, I'd venture to say he's a more affectionate, sensitive guy for it. Don't get me wrong, he's no pansy ~ plays football, likes girls, etc. Regular guys' guy. But was very close to mom in his early days and part of it included co-sleeping.

    Its not for everybody, but certainly hasn't been proven unhealthy.


    Answer by jenephertx at 6:14 PM on Apr. 27, 2010

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