How do I get over being cheated on?

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Fingerspeller

Asked by Fingerspeller at 3:49 AM on Jul. 11, 2008 in Relationships

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  • You take it one day at a time and try not to dwell on it.
    jen_park

    Answer by jen_park at 4:00 AM on Jul. 11, 2008

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  • give 100% forgiveness--it is not that big of a deal--trust me--one day you will be the one who is cheating even if it is not with the one who cheated on you. His cheating does not mean he doesn't love you. Give him space and let it go quickly. Your only hurting yourself by dwelling on it. Yes--it is painful--but the pain stays a lot longer with the "woe-is-me" attitude
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:21 AM on Jul. 11, 2008

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  • I was cheated on and lied to about it by my daughter's father. I just took it slow into getting back into a relationship. After a few months I felt ok to go on a few dates, but I didn't actually go out with the guy. Then I told myself that not every guy is going to cheat on me (and I still remind myself that everyday) I'm now dating a really wonderful guy that I know isn't cheating on me for a fact. I think you just have to remind yourself the same things, and take it really slow. You may never get totally over it and always have a "in the back of the mind" question, is this guy cheating on me? But the pain will get better eventually.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:31 AM on Jul. 11, 2008

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  • noone deserves to be cheated on i think the last answer is crazy not to be mean but if i was cheated on i would lose that person as fast as i can you never know what you can and or will get and if they cheated once and you just got over it they may think it is ok to do again and again and again and sooner or later you will probably get some thing that will kill you i think to keep my self respect i would have to lose them but you have to do what you think is best for you
    frogz_lover81

    Answer by frogz_lover81 at 7:55 AM on Jul. 11, 2008

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  • I personally myself could never get thru the pain of being cheated on. I would end the relationship, cause in my eyes if someone has to cheat then they never loved me in the first place. Thats just how I feel. Everyone is different.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 8:08 AM on Jul. 11, 2008

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  • Your to important of a person for your SO to cheat on you, he could bring you home something like the other ladies have said and also there is no telling what else he could lie about, what if next time he cheats he gets the other girl pregnant,I cant imagine anything worse. I would not trust him enough to put my future in his hands,start over and rebuild your life it's gonna be hard but in the long run you will find someone way better than him.
    JonahsMom1107

    Answer by JonahsMom1107 at 9:02 AM on Jul. 11, 2008

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  • I can't stay with someone who cheats. I've been cheated on and hurt in other ways, just as bad. I still remember the pain of the first jerk, 20 years ago. I don't really care anymore, though. I am lucky to have a wonderful man who I love to death and trust completely. If you are staying in the relationship, you are going to have to learn to trust him. IF he is committed to change. If he's not committed to change, you probably wont get over it completely. Forgiveness is easy, forgetting is near impossible! The only way I really got over the pain that some of my exes put me thru is by being truly happy with someone else. IN GOOD TIME!
    drowninginboys

    Answer by drowninginboys at 9:10 AM on Jul. 11, 2008

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  • ok, i was married for almost 8 years and was cheated on by him at least 4 times that he admitted to. i finally left him, because i just couldn't do it anymore. the trust was gone, and i was no longer in love w/him. if i were to be cheated on now my by DF, i would leave. why stay w/someone who obviously doesn't love me and care for me enough to be faithful to me? it's all up to you though as to wether or not you feel that this is worth trying to fix.
    Dark_Princess_2

    Answer by Dark_Princess_2 at 9:24 AM on Jul. 11, 2008

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  • "give 100% forgiveness--it is not that big of a deal--trust me--one day you will be the one who is cheating even if it is not with the one who cheated on you. His cheating does not mean he doesn't love you. Give him space and let it go quickly. Your only hurting yourself by dwelling on it. Yes--it is painful--but the pain stays a lot longer with the "woe-is-me" attitude"


    This is coming from a CHEATER. Obviously
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:40 AM on Jul. 11, 2008

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  • First of all everyones situation is different so don't take what one says like it's what you should be doing.
    2 years ago I found out he cheated and it still hurts and we are still together, but we went to therapy and said what we hated and liked about each other and worked on those things first. I have to say that the person who cheated was not the person I met. It made him a horrible person and it was up to him to make a choice to either be that way or not. He is now a better person to me and his kids. Way better. But now i'm left with this pain that I have to work or deal with day by day.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:45 AM on Jul. 11, 2008

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