What manners should children display when out to eat in a restaurant?

Saturday night, we met some friends at a local supper club for dinner.(7pm) We were the only customers until a group of about 4-5 couples came in with their young children-ages anywhere from toddlers to elementary age. They sat at a table visiting while the kids proceeded to run around on the dance floor and throughout the restaurant, yelling, for the entire evening! The parents apparently didn't notice since they made no attempt to quiet them or settle them down. Our evening was ruined since we couldn't even hear each other speak across the table. What happened to getting a babysitter or entertaining in your own home when your kids are young. If you must take them out, try McDonald's playland! At least use it as a teaching opportunity for your kids to learn proper ettiquette and consideration for others. This is becoming way too common!

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pkdrummer

Asked by pkdrummer at 5:24 PM on Dec. 9, 2008 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • i don't agree with parents having to stay home or get a sitter just because they have young kids. i do however agree with discipline. my daughter is almost 4 and it has been a rare occasion that she's acted out in public. i also think that if a parent wants to take their children out with them they should be made to sit down and act properly.
    My parents raised me to be uber polite in restaurants and i could go to a restaurant alone or with friends at 12 and act like a young lady...now it's just pathetic...
    chyna_doll

    Answer by chyna_doll at 5:35 PM on Dec. 9, 2008

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  • Kids dont generally bother me when were out. Mine are well behaved but there are moments that have bad times too. I try not to judge other peoples parenting skills based on a couple hours. Thats just me though. I do believe though many have become relaxed because we have allowed it to happen. We dont spank, or punish, and shoot they dont even allow kids to have dodge ball in school bc it might hurt someone, and in high school there arent even try outs because they might hurt someone if they arent picked. SO yea, u wanna know where society has gone wrong? It went and has gone wrong ever since helicopter parents took charge.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:30 PM on Dec. 9, 2008

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  • ive left in the middle of meals because my son is misbehaving. he knows better now, but i only take the baby to "kid friendly" restaurants.
    jbirchard

    Answer by jbirchard at 5:41 PM on Dec. 9, 2008

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  • i think if you want to take your children out than that's your right but it's also my right to not want to listen to your children scream and cry and disturb my evening. i understand that sometimes things happen, but it's the parents who are completely oblivious to a screaming child that really get to me. when my son starts the screaming or throwing a tantrum in a restaurant, i stop what i'm doing and leave, i don't want to ruin someone else's evening.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:41 PM on Dec. 9, 2008

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  • I think there are restaurants you take kids to and others that you don't. I personally wouldn't take my kids to a supper club - that's more of an adult atmosphere - somewhere you go to get away from the kids LOL. If I were dining there, I would not want to be disturbed like that.....those people were quite rude.

    I would visit family style restaurants or fast food....the atmosphere is more kid-friendly. I would still make my kids mind me though, that's a given.
    Pollymom

    Answer by Pollymom at 5:44 PM on Dec. 9, 2008

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  • kids are kids..but the parents shouldve made an attempt to quiet them down.

    youngmm

    Answer by youngmm at 5:46 PM on Dec. 9, 2008

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  • normally if dh and i go out by ourselves, if there are kids playing or acting up wherever we decide to eat, we just laugh it off. mostly the parents are apologetic, saying sorry over and over again, no matter what they do the kid just won't listen. if i do happen to see someone that has a kid running around and/or playing aggrivating people, and they're not doing anything, all i really do is look at my dh and say " i'da whooped him if he were my son" and that's it, it's over. i don't let other kids ruin my night with my dh. I know how hard it is to get a kid (i'm talking under the age of 3) to act right in a restaurant, they don't understand.
    armywife43

    Answer by armywife43 at 5:47 PM on Dec. 9, 2008

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  • if they're tired and fussy, they don't understand that it's not proper to let it be known. unless my son is tired and fussy, i normally don't have a problem with him. he's a pretty good kid. i try not to take him out when i know he's going to be like that, but sometimes you just never know, like if they're going through a growth spurt, you never know when they'll get tired. some sleep all day, some sleep only when they feel tired, and that could be any time of the day.
    armywife43

    Answer by armywife43 at 5:47 PM on Dec. 9, 2008

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  • It's called "tuning out"....i can't stand it....and it's sad that they tune their kids out to do their own thing and then one day they look up and say "what the crap happened....I didn' raise you that way."...you're right, the parents didn't raise them ANY way....it was a free for all nut fest that the parents tuned out for a decade or so. When you could still smoke in restaurants....I would tell the hostess....no smoking and no kids....it seemed like since we had a child with us they felt it was ok to seat us with other people with kids....no thanks...mine isn't a maniac.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:57 PM on Dec. 9, 2008

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  • Maybe some people should go to restaurants that are for adults only - that way they don't have to whine about kid's behavior. The only way the kid's will really learn how to "behave" at a restaurant is to practice at one - too bad there are parents out there who don't realize that.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:46 PM on Dec. 9, 2008

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